A Letter To The Friend Who's Graduating Before Me

A Letter To The Friend Who's Graduating Before Me

While you're out there conquering the world, I'll be here at school and that's okay.

To my friend graduating before me,

First of all, I believe a congratulation is in order. You're about to enter the real world, and you're destined to achieve greatness. I know it's cliché, but I truly can't believe how fast our last year together has gone by. When we first met, I honestly didn't think that you would have this much of an impact on me or my collegiate career thus far. But, here we are at the end of your last year here, and I'm still not sure how I'm going to get through next year without you by my side.

You may not realize it, but I look up to you in many ways. You're always able to turn a bad situation into a good one, and you're always able to see the light in things. Your kindness is contagious and your willingness to help people in their time of need does not go unnoticed. You know how to make anyone laugh and feel comfortable, even if they've just met you, and you don't find that in everyone nowadays.

You've taught me to find my purpose in the world and to chase my passions, no matter how big or small they might seem at the moment. Because of you, I've learned to be a kinder person and to never place a judgment on someone until you know their entire story. I'm no longer afraid to apologize for who I am because you've made sure to tell me that I am worthy of life and that I am enough. You've taught me what it means to be a genuine friend, and I couldn't thank you enough for that.

These past few weeks, in particular, have been an emotional whirlwind. I go from being sad about you leaving, to being so proud of you and all that you've done throughout your collegiate career. I know you don't have it all figured out yet (who actually does?), but I know that you'll make it out there in the real world. It'd be impossible for you not to.

I know that there will be plenty of texts, FaceTime's, and calls to help fill the void of your absence, but it won't be the same without you here. I'll miss being able to just walk into your room and sit on the ground when I'm bored and want some company. When I want to go and roam around Target for an hour, I won't be able to text you and force you to come with me. Going out won't be the same because our friend group will be missing your vibrant energy. It's going to take some getting used to for sure, but know that my door is always open just in case you want to take a quick visit to your old stomping grounds for old time's sake.

The upcoming year without you looks scary, and it makes me sad to think that I won't be able to experience my senior year with you. However, I know that you're only a call away and I'll be sure to update you every time something happens. I know that your case of FOMO can get pretty severe, but I promise to let you in on all of the things that happen to me and our friends as the year goes on.

While you're out there conquering the world, I'll be here at school and that's okay. After all, they say distance makes the heart grow fonder, right? I'm excited for you and your new adventures, and I know that deep down you are too. Thank you for the past few years, and here's to the future.

With love,

Your younger friend

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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