Hi,
Death is not an easy subject. Almost everyone has lost someone in their life, or will lose someone. It does not get easier every time it happens. Death takes a toll on you and those around you.
I understand your pain. It is hard, very hard. It is hard to grasp the idea that someone you care about is gone. In just a flash, they are no longer there. I would say it gets easier, but sometimes it does not. You still find yourself thinking back to a time when they were with you. You see things that remind you of something they said or did. No, it does not get easier, but you learn different ways to cope with your loss.
There is no guide to getting over the death of someone you care about. Everyone handles loss easily. Support is a great way to deal with your loss. It is nice to have people there for you when you are feeling down, or just need a shoulder to cry on. It is okay to cry. Everyone cries. You are not weak or emotional because you cry over losing someone. There are times when you just need to let out some tears.
When someone dies you feel as though you have lost a part of you as well. You just have to do everything you can to remember them. Remember the good parts of them. Remember the good memories you had together. Remember why you cared about them so much in the first place. You start to do things in honor of them. You want to do everything you can to make them proud.
Death is just a reminder that life is short, and in a flash it can be over. You realize how valuable the lives of those around you are. You begin to appreciate their lives so much more. You learn to love harder and hold onto people. You also learn to let go of grudges, time spent unhappy is not time spent well.
Whether you lost someone to an illness, an accident or the various other causes, it is not something easily dealt with. You hear, "I'm sorry for your loss" more times than you can count. Sometimes all you need is someone to hold you while you cry and let all of your emotions out. Everyone is there to help you remember the good times.
Losing someone is a very traumatic experience all around. It helps a lot to take time to heal your wounds. Especially in the case of an accident, you are not prepared to lose that person. When you do lose someone, it is hard to wrap your head around the idea that they are actually gone.
The best way to cope with loss is deal with it at your own pace and in your own way. No one can tell you how to get over the loss. You never really get over it, you just learn how to deal with it and live life. Take your time to mourn and do what makes you happy.
In memory of my uncle, Gary Kam Sun. Rest in peace.
Sincerely,
Someone Who Understands What You're Going Through
