As an indecisive person, I think relationships would have to be one of the hardest things that we have to deal with. I try to be more assertive, but honestly, I cannot make my mind up about anything. So how on earth am I supposed to know if he's the right guy? Maybe not even for marriage, but just for dating? I have never understood boys, and I still don't. Maybe that is the problem though: I am trying to connect with boys my age. Should women try to aim for older men? You would think that as they get older, they would get more mature; however, my mom has informed me that I am definitely wrong.
I have heard many and many times before that you will just know. OK, well what if I don't? How am I supposed to trust what I think? I still can't even make myself a plate of food with the right serving amount. I always get too little or too much, yet I am supposed to trust myself with something kind of important.
Another hard problem for an indecisive person when it comes to dating is when you have more than one admirer. Lets be honest and say that this is not a common thing for me, yet I'm supposed to pick the "right" one for me when I've never had to actually choose a best candidate. I am not sure about anybody else, but usually it starts off with me liking someone and then seeing where it goes. There's not "well, he does this but the other one does this" confusion. Casually dating is hard. The movies like to portray it as fun and sexy, but it's not. You have two really great people trying to win over your heart and someone is going to get hurt. I can tell you that these past couple of weeks have been great, but almost sad because when one connection gets stronger, I know the other guy might get hurt.
I can tell anyone now that is going through something like this: you have to find the right person to talk to. I tried talking to one of my best friends about it; she helped at first, but I was unsure how well she could help since she couldn't feel the connections I was feeling. I tried talking to my male cousins so I could get a male perspective, but I ended up helping them more than anything. Lastly, I was so confused I finally told my mom. I am close to my mom, but I didn't want her to know how confused I was. I wanted her to see me as an adult with my life together, but she helped me the most of all. I don't know why I didn't go to her in the first place, but that was just another lesson I learned.
We are all still learning and making mistakes, so just trust your family. Even if you are screwed up or crazy, they will love you. The best part about a family is the unconditional love, and they know you better than anyone, so they might actually have some great perspectives to help with whatever you can't decide on.
