A Letter To All Of My Long Lost Friends

A Letter To All Of My Long Lost Friends

I am who I am today because of who we were yesterday.
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Dear ex-elementary school pals, high school frenemies, or faux college sisters:

I hope you’re doing well. Quite like the seasons, I believe everything has a time and a place and as I’m sure you’re aware, not all good (or bad) things last forever. Ice cream melts, love fades and friendships time out. Whether we ended on a happy or sad note, I hope you know that I don’t resent you and your friendship to me is not overlooked.

We are all busy writing our own stories full of many characters along the way while we search for our own happy ending. However, moving on is always hard and sometimes change is difficult to cope with. Whether you were at the beginning of my story or recently intertwined, I want you to know that you had an impact on my life.

I often think of our adventures when I reflect on who I am today. You all have taught me many things. For example, I’ve learned you shouldn’t cry over lost stuffed animals because those can be replaced. Also, it’s never OK to cry over a boy. You can probably get revenge in some way, shape, or form. (Don’t ask what that means to a junior high girl). Finally, it’s always important to speak your mind and it’s okay if people don’t agree with you. I believe every person who has come into my life was put there for a reason. Whether it be for a lesson, a laugh, or even tragedy, I just want to make sure I take the time to say thanks for being around. So, if you ever see me around, I hope you say "Hi." Lost friendships are always upsetting, but I think it's even more frustrating to walk by someone you know and act like you've never met. Even a simple smile or wave would suffice.

Now, I'm not necessarily trying to repair our friendship. Some things are beyond repair, but that's OK. I can only hope we are both better people because of it. I am who I am today because of who we were yesterday. I hope you feel the same.

I hope I taught you how important it is to laugh at your mistakes and how sometimes failure is more impactful than success. I want to leave people better than I found them.

Life goes on and moves pretty quickly. Some friendships are able to stand the test of time and others are not. But regardless of the fact that our friendship didn't last, I hope you've surrounded yourself with a new group of friends who support you and build you up rather than tear you down. You truly deserve the best.

You were a good friend to me, and I hope you are good to others. Continue to smile, be kind and hope for the best. That's all any of us can really do.

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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!

JQ

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To My Friends Who Are In Love...

Thank you for giving me real relationship goals

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There are no words to express how happy I am for you all.

After being witness to the tears, heartache and sadness your exes caused, I am so grateful you all found people that see how beautiful you all are and are gentle with your hearts.

As your friend, it comforts me knowing you all are with people that would never, ever purposefully hurt you.

It is also comforting to know that you are being taken care of emotionally. They don't belittle or discourage you, but instead motivate and challenge you. They enhance your lives, rather than take away from them.

It makes me happy seeing you all with people that are supportive. People that want you to experience life's opportunities and appreciate your desires to see the world– and rather than holding you back, let you go without an ultimatum.

I love hearing about kind things they do for you.

Whether it's them buying flowers, surprise getaway dates, poems and letters, or just showing appreciation for you– it makes me happy knowing they are treating you.

Or like one of you telling me about a night out and that when you got a little too drunk at the bars, your boyfriend didn't get mad or shame you for your intoxication, but instead got you home safely, made you something to eat and even made sure you took your makeup off– he's a keeper.

I'm happy you are with people that are proud to be by your side. When it comes to your relationships, they don't care what people have to say. They proudly hold your hands, kiss you, post pictures with you, gush about you to their friends and take you home to their families.

Lastly, I'm grateful you all feel loved in return– you all deserve the world and nothing less.

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