We've all seen it happen to someone in our lives. That unfortunate thing called life just gets their hopes up and runs for it. And then so does that parent. The parent that couldn't handle the role of being a parent or didn't quite have their priorities straight when it was time to. We see the people who are affected by it try to live their lives normally. They are just trying to make sense of why this may have happened. Was it their fault? NO. That's the answer. So here is my letter and for me, this is for someone who hurt me and many other people in my family. So here goes nothing.
Dear "Dad,"
if you can even call yourself that...you aren't fooling anyone. You're just as pathetic as you were the last time I saw you.
I think the last time I saw you I was 14. I'm 23 now. I was playing a soccer game at the park that you decided to pop up to see me with your other daughter from a different woman. This hurt me so much that you can just come in my life out of nowhere and act like you were parent of the year. You were hoping to seek sympathy, but you only found a girl, who was tired of getting her hopes up. I saw you the next day walking down your drive way. You lived a whole five minutes from my house on the other side of town. Don't you go blaming my mom for not being able to see me. You were more than capable of getting in your piece of shit car and driving to my house. So the real question is...why have you lied so many times? Why did you get my hopes up? Take my wishes away from me? Why couldn't you ever visit me? And when you said you would and make decent plans for us, you just disappeared once again.
So why do you think I want to talk to you now? I have resolved my anger for you. I have forgiven you in my heart, but I don't want to hear from you. You have taken many things away from me that I cannot get back. You have hurt my loved ones and you have hurt me. I was not your priority, so you can't expect to be one of mine now.
Dear invisible parent, who never came around when I needed you, I don't need you anymore. My amazing mom did just fine without you. She gave me everything I needed and more. She made the empty spots full and supported me with her everything. She is a strong person and you are weak.
But thank you for the one thing I have learned, that drugs are not worth it and that finding priorities and family is important. To never lay hands on a woman or lay hands on any one out of anger...and to never hurt a child emotionally like the way you have hurt me. I have only heard stories about you. My sister and mom were so strong for putting up with you.
I just hope you can find it in your heart to respect my wishes.
Sincerely,
The Child You Weren't Ready For.
