Dear Broken Hearted,

Trust me, I know what you are feeling right now. It sucks. I feels like someone ripped your heart out of your chest, and left you there to bleed out. Your world seems to have crashed around you. It seems like the rest of the world is happy while you are in pain. As if no one can feel or understand the pain you are going through.

I was in that same state about two months ago. I know it feels like the pain will never stop, but I'm here to tell you that it will. Even during your worst days of sadness, know that your heartbreak will end.

Don't get me wrong it's not going to stop overnight. I wish it did, but that's just not how the heart heals. Everyone has a different healing time and process, but the pain will eventually fade. I'm going to go through what I learned during my healing time.

Stop the tears as much as you can. It's definitely okay to cry. There will be times that tears will just spring into your eyes at random times. There's nothing you can really do to stop that. That being said you can't cry forever. I had tried to not allow myself cry. Then ended up spending two weeks crying randomly. Get one good cry session out. Let yourself for a little bit embrace in your pain and sadness. Then come to realize you can't be sad and cry forever the rest of your life.

Exercise. Whether it's going for a run or yoga, get out and get some exercise. It is a great way to distract yourself. It honestly makes you feel better when you are done. It doesn't have to be intense or anything, just do something. It's better than sitting in your room all alone.

Hobbies and friends are key to my healing process. It wasn't until my break-up that I realized how much of my time I spent with my ex or talking to him. When he was no longer there, I had so much spare time and I felt lonely. Spend that extra time you have with your friends.

Go out and have some fun, or have a pizza and movie night together. I know in college it can be hard finding time to get all your friends together because everyone has such crazy schedules, so I suggest finding a hobby to fill that time when you can't be with friends. I personally took up meditating. I also got back into reading and writing, which were things I hadn't done as much lately. Another idea is to join another club or organization at school to meet new people and distract yourself.

The most important thing I can tell you to ease your heartbreak and begin to heal is to focus on you. Put time and effort into you and your goals. Write down what you want to accomplish in your life. Revisit the things that matter to you. Make a confidence playlist that'll make you feel good when you listen to it. Don't let this heartbreak define who you are as a person.

Your heart will heal. You won't forget as much as you want to. That's not realistic. It will get better though. No matter how much you think that it's impossible. It's an uphill battle, but you will triumph. One day, you will wake up and realize you haven't cried in a week. It'll feel like a victory. You'll look in the mirror and see a better person than you saw before. You may even think you were foolish to ever be heartbroken.

I know this feeling because one day I woke up to most of these thoughts.

Like I said, everyone has their own healing process. Find yours. Make the best of an awful situation. Things happen for a reason.

Sincerely,

The Ex-Broken Hearted