To my son and daughter that I will have in the FUTURE;
You aren't even here or even being thought of yet(I'm not ready to be a Mom), but I wanted to write this letter to you. I recently went to the movies with one of my best friends and we saw Bad Moms. Neither my friend or I are moms yet, but we knew this movie would be cute and funny. We had to see it!
It is a movie about a mom, named Amy, trying to be the perfect mom.(Spoiler Alerts Ahead) She would cook her kids breakfast, do their homework and make sure they got to their appointments on time for everything while doing all that, she maintained a high maintenance part-time job.
Amy had everything. Perfect family, perfect husband, perfect overachieving kids, perfect job, beautiful home. That is what everyone wants. Right? Well, Amy's life gets all twisted when her husband cheats on her and she suddenly realizes how exhausted and overworked she is. So she teams up with two other overly stressed moms and calls it quits on being a good mom. Ultimately deciding to become a BAD MOM. This decision not only helps her, but helps everyone in the movie grow and learn something.
I just want to tell you a few things. I am not perfect. I will be a mother, your mother, but I have my faults. I will make mistakes. I am human. Humans (in general)make mistakes; it's like in our DNA to screw up every once in awhile. Being a mom isn't a software that you can just download into your brain. You learn as you go, especially with your first child. I do promise that I will get better.
I will love you no matter what. Nothing in this world could ever make me hate you. I promise this to you because more than likely you will feel like you hate me at some point for taking your phone or grounding you from leaving the house. I will be stern with you to make you a good person. I want you to be the best person that you can be. And if that takes you hating me a few times, then we will get through it together.
You don't have to be perfect. You will be perfect in my eyes always. But that is how every mother sees her children. You will make mistakes and you will also learn from those same mistakes. I don't want you to grow up insecure or scared to do things because you don't want to mess up. I was insecure most of my life. Right now, I'm still a little wary of venturing out. But I'm slowly changing. Because we only live once. And we have to take chances.
And by taking chance I don't mean to do the most dangerous things in the world to be adventurous. I mean go out with friends, join a club or a few, play a sport, go to prom, date(Even though I don't want you to date until your at least 30). Don't be afraid to be a kid. I want you to experience being a kid for as long as you can. Believe in magic, heck I still believe in some magic. I will always be there to support you and help you along the way.
This world that you will later be born in is a broken one. It has been that way from the beginning. It is the previous generation of people to step up and try to fix the world slowly. It is my job to try to make the world a better place for you, my children. And that is exactly what I plan to do. Because I don't want you to experience anything but amazing things because you will one day have to do the same for your own kids. That will be a long time from now, but I will be there to help you with that as well.
Love always,
Your Future Mom
