Are you constantly friend zoned and don’t understand why? Does it seem like no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to win over the girl you're in love with?
Maybe she has a boyfriend or she’s always interested in someone else. Maybe you’re mad she has never given you a chance or let you take her out. Either way, as girls, we're tired of hearing guys complain about how nice guys finish last. Here's a little newsflash: it’s not that we aren’t into nice guys, we just aren’t into you.
Girls subconsciously know within five minutes of meeting you whether or not you are destined for their friend zone. Unfortunately (for most of you), it’s nearly impossible to change that decision once it’s been made. So for the sake of keeping everyone else sane when you get friend-zoned:
1. Please move on. I’m not trying to be rude when I say this, but there are literally millions of girls out there, girls that will actually be into you. This one isn’t? Big deal. Think of it this way, would you really want to be with someone who would only date you after months of persuasion? I sure hope not.
2. Don’t try to play games. You want to play hard to get? Go for it. Let me know how that works out for you. Mind games are annoying and childish to begin with, but playing them with someone who doesn’t want you is a huge waste of your time and makes you that much more involved in this non-existent relationship. On the flip side, clinginess will actually push the girl away if she isn’t reciprocating your feelings, and it will only make you more attached and emotional (refer to #1).
3. Beware of taking advice from your friends. I don’t care how good you think they are with girls. Take a look at how they actually treat women and how relationships turn out for them. If they’re only getting attention from shallow girls that don’t stick around long, maybe you shouldn’t be taking their advice, especially if you’re looking for something long term. I don’t care how attractive and charismatic your friends think they are: do your own thing, be yourself and find a girl who’s into that.
4. Girls get friend zoned, too. I get it - it sucks. You obviously enjoy each other’s company enough to spend a lot of time together, but that doesn’t necessarily mean something more will ever come from it. You can’t force a spark that isn’t there for one of you, so be careful of pushing your luck and losing this person forever. If your feelings are getting in the way of your friendship, try taking a step back and meet some new women with the same qualities you find appealing in your friend.
5. Confused on where you stand? If this is the beginning of your friendship and you’re into her, ask the girl on a date! This allows her to consider the development of your relationship, and you will be able to tell right away where you stand. There is always a chance she could say no, but if you never ask, there is no outcome in which she says yes. Most friend zones can be avoided if you establish right away what type of relationship you’re looking for.
In a one-sided relationship you'll never be happy and neither will your friend. Eventually you will find someone who loves everything about you, and you’ll be thankful that you still have your girl friends by your side. It takes time, but down the road it will become apparent that some relationships just aren’t capable of being anything more than what they seem.
