To All Of My College Friends Who Are Graduating Without Me

To All Of My College Friends Who Are Graduating Without Me

Please take me with you!

To all of my friends who are graduating,

First off, congratulations! I bet you can't believe it's actually here. I know I can't. As excited as I am, graduation is always bittersweet. It's the last time that you'll ever be in the same room as these people you've spent the last four years with.

Many of you are going straight from the stage to new cities and new jobs, taking some time to travel, or just trying to figure out what is next. Your future is filled with nothing but promises from here on out.

Graduation is a time for reflection of the last four years. Even though I'm not graduating with you, I'm still looking back on the time we spent together. The parties we went to, the hours we spent watching Netflix on the couch, and every time we just sat and vented out problems to each other.

It's really bittersweet that I'll be here, doing all of this stuff without you next year.

While you're out in the workforce and learning what it really is to be an adult (aka, no more homework!), I'll still be here writing papers and studying for exams. Don't forget to keep in touch with me!

I'm so excited to hear about your new job and everything that comes with being in the real world. I'll be sure to keep you in the loop with campus drama and crazy party stories.

I already miss you and wish we had more time to just hang out on the quad. Finals are here and we have less time than ever to get everything done before we leave campus. No matter how many years we had together in college I feel like it's not enough.

I am so excited for you to graduate, almost excited as I am getting for my own impending graduation in the future. I am so proud of everything you've done for our campus while you were here. You may not think so, but this campus would be different if you had never stepped foot here.

Thank you for being my friend, and for guiding me with what extra experience you had gained before I arrived. We grew together, but now it's time for you to have some new experiences without me. Good luck with everything you're about to start. I'll be here in class cheering you on.


Your friend who is not graduating

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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