Relationships are different in college. You start thinking of your best friends as bridesmaids and boyfriends as future husbands. As both types of relationships heat up, it becomes that much harder to maintain both sides... just ask my best friend.
When my best friend brought a new boyfriend into her life, it was like she stepped out of mine entirely. Now, of course, I wish nothing but the best for her; but watching her turn her back on our relationship was utterly heartbreaking.
As a girl in a relationship too, I understand wanting to spend time with your boyfriend, especially with all the freedom college allows. But as much as I enjoy my time with him, I enjoy it just as much as my time with her.
Best friends are important because they can give you things the boyfriend can't. I can't imagine not having my girl time. Half the fun of having a boyfriend is having friends to talk about him with. And while he can be a good support system, he'll never get it the way they do. He can't go get his nails done with you, he won't give you an honest opinion on what to wear, and he certainly won't sit and watch "The Bachelor" with as much joy.
I'm truly happy you think he's the one, but why does that make it okay to have him be the only one you see? Being inseparable is not a healthy relationship, no matter how much you love him.
So to my best friend, consider this a twisted love letter: as much as I love you I think it's time to leave. Because while you devote your days to him, I can't say I've been sitting here patiently waiting for you to want to see me too. I'm slowly and sadly moving on and building new relationships. I want to invest my time on people who are in it for the long run with me. I know the heartbreak of losing a boyfriend, and it makes me feel worse to know that you if you experience it too I won't be there to comfort you like you did for me.
I hope one day the memories of all the good times we've had together come back to you, because they're certainly on my mind. Most of all, I hope they make you come back before I leave for good.
