He texts you everyday, you hangout all the time, but you aren’t “together.”
“Oh no, he isn’t my boyfriend, we’re just talking.”
It’s the phrase we now use to stop ourselves from committing to another person in a relationship. Talking to someone means that you aren’t dating, but aren’t allowed to be completely single either.
Nowadays, we have to complicate a relationship with the awkward grey area. This grey area has made our lives a mess of indecisiveness.
So we go along pretending that we are fine with being in a not-relationship relationship. We distance ourselves from those we most want to be near in order to not seem needy.
But why?
Because, people love being indecisive. People like not having to commit to other people. Not committing is easy—and we like easy.
We want to commit without actually having to commit.
It’s the most twisted logic. Deep down we all want someone to be with. We all want someone to care. We all want someone to call at 3 a.m. when we are lonely, but we don’t want to have to worry about picking up the pieces of our broken heart.
That’s what we are most afraid of—getting hurt. So creating labels that distance ourselves from a real relationship is how we prevent the pain.
But it doesn’t work.
The relationship labels we create just make us more confused in the end. They leave us wondering where we stand with the other person. We are confused because we all want to care the least—because the more you care, the more you have to loose.
And we wonder why our “relationships” never last. It’s because we don’t tell the other person how we really feel. But that’s so selfish—hiding what we feel. It’s truly noble to wear your heart on your sleeve; to let it all hang out.
If we never let the other person know how we feel, how are we supposed to know if they share those feelings?
We lose relationships because we are afraid to say how we really feel. But that’s bullsh*t. We have words; we should use them.
Don’t be so afraid of wanting to be with someone. It’s human nature.
Stop hiding behind a label you don’t understand. If someone isn’t comfortable actually being in a relationship with you, then screw them.
Be with someone who can’t wait to post that they’re in a relationship with you. Be with someone who isn’t embarrassed or afraid to call you their own. Be with someone who actually wants to be with you.
Stop “talking” to someone, be with someone.
