It is disgusting that slut-shaming is something that actually occurs, even environments outside of a college campus. Coming from someone who has been slut-shamed by her own family, this is an issue that must be addressed.
Typically, I'm not one to be upset by the things that other people say, about me or anyone else for that matter. Karma's a b*tch, so she can do her job to bite you in the ass. And recently, in my social group, there has been a rise in slut-shaming.
For those who don't understand what that means, it is essentially when a female is judged for her "count," or people that she has had sex with.
Multiple people on this campus, myself included, have been a victim of slut-shaming. I want everyone to understand that this should not be something that occurs in any environment.
I will be very open, I have had sex with eight people on the campus of Washington & Jefferson. Now, eight people is not a lot. I've had a few members of my family, as well as students, openly disagree. I personally know many people who have had sex with more than twenty people. I applaud you for getting some booty, ladies because some people are unfortunate to not even have had their first kiss.
With that being said, I have had students tell me that I should not "be bouncing around," or one of my favorites, "what does that mouth do?" I have literally even heard someone say, "you shouldn't put that many miles on your system because you have too many already."
No one should be telling a female that she needs to "slow down" because her count is near her mother's. No one should be telling any female that she needs to be careful with how many people she has sex with - it is no one's concern, other than the two people activity doing so.
Sex should not be that "terrible." For those that do choose to be abstinent, or whatever have you, continue on that route because that is something that you choose to do - not because of your religion, your parents, or even guardians; you have sex when you are ready. However, I do not think of sex to be an action done when you are married or have been in a relationship for "x" amount of years/months/weeks.
Casual sex is a thing. This is something that I practice, as well as many students, and even people, universally. Students/people should not be shunned for having sex, no matter how high or low their count is. If someone chooses not to have sex, or have sex with ten different people on the same day, you do you, boo boo.
Therefore, do not tell a female, or any gender for that matter, that she needs to "slow down" or even "pick up the pace." Have sex at your own risk, and pace.
