Let's Talk About Anything But Romance

Let's Talk About Anything But Romance

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I'm a confident person. I don't have many insecurities and I'm not made uncomfortable easily. In fact, I can count on one hand the amount of times I recall feeling embarrassed. There are very few conversations from which I will shy away and I don't mind sharing my own story upon request. Basically, I'm an open book.

However, there is one page I tend to leave unturned: I don't like to talk about romance.

No, it's not because I find it disgusting or because I'm single or because I support the "Netflix and chill" movement.

I simply do not like to talk about it.

Before I weeded out my social media accounts, nearly every other post on any given platform was something about a "happy" couple: selfies of kissing, pictures of flowers, teddy bears, lingerie, or candy given as gifts, multiple emojis, and hashtags about "relationship goals," or status updates about how "spoiled" someone feels because his/her significant other made a tremendous sacrifice this morning and prepared an extra cup of coffee.

Why are we talking about this?

I understand sharing milestones like engagements, weddings, vacations or other trips/events. Don't get me wrong-- I love seeing pictures of my friends and family building a beautiful life with their partners and families. That's the main purpose of social media and not at all what I'm talking about.

I'm referring to couples that leave no mystery. Romance is something intimate and private. It's not something to boast about on a regular basis. If your first thought after your significant other does something nice for you is to post it on social media, you're doing it wrong.

True "love" is not given to receive recognition.

I cannot stress that enough. When the day comes that I am comfortable enough to settle down with someone, his picture will not be posted every week as my "Man Crush Monday" and if he wants to plaster my face all over his page as his "Woman Crush Wednesday," he's got to go.

I will not announce him to all of Facebook as "my King" and Lord help him if he refers to me in any way, shape or form as "his Queen". (You know, the couple on your news feed that turns any conversation into a profession of their "love" and makes you gag with their constant public obsession over each other. I mean, come on-- what is this, a relationship or a British monarchy?).

When two people romantically love each other, it shows plenty on its own. It radiates and sets an example for others. People should not feel like they have to prove to the rest of the world that their partners are satisfactory. If you make me happy and I make you happy, why does the rest of the world need to know our personal information?

My friends often shake their heads and make fun of me when something "cute" happens because while everyone around me is gawking in admiration, I tend to resemble this photo of Chrissy Teigen:

It's become a habit.

If the conversation produces the responses, "awe" or "how cute" and it's not about animals, count me out. I'll sit there quietly, twiddling my thumbs and trying not to raise my eyebrows. It's nothing against the people who want to discuss it; the subject itself just makes me cringe.

Even in the privacy of my own relationships, stereotypical romance has me feeling awkward. I don't want a man to follow a frilly road map of what he thinks women want to try and please me. Don't even get me started on the unnecessary pressures of Valentine's Day.

I'm not a big fan of flowers for two reasons:

1. As I said before, romance is something personal and intimate. It's a nice gesture and I certainly would be thankful if they were presented to me, but thinking outside the box is much more unique.

2. I am terrible at keeping plants alive-- seriously, it's bad.

I do appreciate gestures of affection, but there are so many ways to say "I love you" without the gimmicks or informing the Facebook world every hour. When I'm not focused on my grades, future career or extracurriculars, the last thing I look for is something else to worry about.

I'm not against college dating by any means. I simply have no interest in stressing over the bullshit that comes with millennial relationships.

That may change when I meet someone who thinks a similar way about his future as I do, but for now, romance is not something on my priority list.

So, if you swoon over Pinterest boards of fairy tale weddings with fancy dresses and a perfectly crafted Prince Charming, all the power to you!

I'll be here, swooning over the giant cake and open bar.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.

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Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.

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Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.

3.Bunnicula

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You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.

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You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.

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The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers

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You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.

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The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"

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The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution

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This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi

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Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters

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You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs

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Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.

14.Go-Gurt

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Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets

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Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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