"You don't get to be angry, that anger is reserved for someone who has it worse."
Actually, we all have a right to be angry. If someone cheated on you, then you have the right to be angry. If you've been bullied but no one believes you, then you absolutely have the right to be angry. I hate it when people say, "What are you crying for? Wipe those tears off your face before I smack them off you." It sets an example as if showing anger or tears are a sign of weakness.
We have all been told to stay strong, but when is our breaking point?
When can we be angry? Only in private? That's probably better for some people but telling someone they don't have the right to be angry just shames them.
When I was younger, my mother always told me not to cry. She said, "What are you crying for? It's fine. Stop crying." She said it aggressively though. Or whenever I was mad at any of my parent, she said stop being mad and give me a hug. She said it angrily and I understand she loves me but I need time and space. I need to be able to want to scream at the top of my lungs or box until I blew off some steam.
It made me feel like my feelings weren't valid. I was always ashamed to feel weak because I was always told to be strong. Because of that, it made me feel emotionally and mentally weak. Once I had my feelings out in the open, or at least in private, I felt better. My mentality was so much more important to take care of rather than feeling invalid.
It's not my fault I feel this way because nothing that happened to me was my fault. It was just the world playing a trick on me. I'd rather be up to the challenge, comfort myself and controlling my anger. It may have helped me for the better because I let my emotions out. Don't let anyone say, "No need to be angry." You have a right to be angry and the anger might not go away, but learn to forgive yourself for feeling that way.
You don't have to forgive those who've wronged you, but I wish them well on their journey. I guess I've matured more than I realized. Most people, like my family, never knew about the struggles I've dealt with but I learned how to deal with it on my own. That, makes me stronger and wiser, in a way.
