Let Me Tell You About My Worst Breakup

Let Me Tell You About My Worst Breakup

Nothing Compares To A Girl Friend Breakup.

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A girl friend knows you on a different level. She has not just been there when you have cried, she has lived through the same situation. She is not just your person you text when something good happens, she is right there by your side. I have been through my fair share of boyfriend breakups, but they are nothing compared to girl friend break ups.

Here is the background story to how this article came into existence. To keep anonymity, let's called her "Claire." I played club soccer with Claire in seventh grade and we quickly became best friends. Then she moved into my neighborhood and we rode the middle school bus together every morning and afternoon. We had soccer practices at night three times a week and our parents would carpool us to and from practice together. There is already a strong bond between teammates, but we were also classmates and neighbors so we had an unbreakable bond. Or so I thought. We entered high school, but not together. She moved into a different school district, but we still played soccer together. Claire and I did not spend as much time together, but we still were best friends. During our sophomore year of high school our friendship ended over a boy.

We went two years without talking until one day Claire texted me out of the blue and we met up for lunch. After laughing about our boy miscommunication and catching up on everything from the past years, we became best friends again. Not the same relationship as before, but best friends nevertheless. Our friendship seemed to have a new feeling to it and I could not believe that we had gone years without speaking to each other. We stayed in our honeymoon stage for a couple months after her text.

Then one night everything fell apart and our breakup history came back. I felt the same way as I did the first time things went south. Miscommunication seemed to be our biggest downfall and we went out with a bang for good this time. I do not think Claire were meant to be best friends for life, but she was my go-to gal during our early teenage years. Even though there was a lot of hurt and anger that caused the break up, I would do anything for that girl. If she needed anything, I would be there. It has been three years since we stopped talking entirely and let me tell you, Claire has been my worst breakup.

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Open Letter To The Boy Who Didn't Appreciate Me

I know, now, that what I have to offer is for someone who realizes just how spectacular I really am.
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Dear You,

You didn't give me enough credit. I put you on a pedestal; I praised you for everything you did right, and even when you did wrong, I still thought you were the greatest.

You see, I know what it's like to appreciate what is in front of me. I have loved, and I have lost. And when I found you and got to know what was deep down inside you, I began to fall for that. But that's not who you were. That's the person you wanted to be.

You wear a mask every day. You put on a big show for everyone around you. Well done! You have them convinced. But me? Not so much. I challenged you to really think about the person you wanted to be. The person you don't show to others. And for a while, you were that person for me. I got your best. And it was wonderful.

But when you were done putting in the effort to treat me with respect and love, it went downhill. When you stopped cherishing the time spent and the deep conversations shared, you resented me. You resented how I made you think further than your comfort zone. You resented how much time of yours I took. You resented the effort it took to be a better person for me. You resented my emotional nature and the huge heart God blessed me with. And it was hurtful.

But that's what I love about myself. I am not easily won over, or impressed. I don't want to settle for mediocre or half your best, I want rawness and wholeness. I want vulnerability. I want someone who isn't afraid to shout the way they feel about me. I want someone who is able to recognize I am a prize. I want someone to appreciate that I have opinions and I am a free thinking individual. I want someone to reciprocate the neverending love I have to give.

I am not a brainless individual. I am an intelligent being, with opinions and thoughts on the world around me. I am a loving and giving person. Always accepting, always patient, always generous. My love is rare. Mostly because I love without conditions. And you won't find that just anywhere.

My emotions were never yours to toy with. I trusted that you would take good care of me. I gave you some of the most precious pieces of me, but you played me for a fool. You left me unsatisfied with a broken heart and nothing to show for the time we spent together.

But I have come to terms with the truth. What I had to offer was much too great for what you were willing to give back. You were not ready for what I was able to provide for you. It frightened you. I wanted to grow with you. I wanted to learn with you. I wanted to build you up, pamper you, shower you in love. But then again, you showed me you weren't worthy. I had to pull myself up from my boot-straps, and move on.

I know, now, that what I have to offer is for someone who realizes just how spectacular I really am. And that was never you.

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Military Girlfriends Are Just Wives Without The Label

"A military girlfriend is just a wife in waiting, no one would go through this if they weren't in it for the long haul."-Anonymous

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Over the years, I have seen the military only showing recognition towards wives of soldiers. It feels like the military believes only wives are worthy of recognition. I am a girlfriend to a U.S. soldier, and I think it's completely unfair. In my eyes, a wife and a faithful girlfriend are both surviving the same situational circumstances, but the wives just get to reap the benefits with their soldier.

Girlfriends go through the same things as the wives. We wait to see them, sometimes really long periods of time. We wait in line after line to be able to see our men.

Whether I am a girlfriend or wife, I believe the military should take every soldiers relationship seriously.

When your soldier deploys, girlfriends won't be given any information related to his job. I know we can't know where they are, but it would be nice to be able to know where he's stationed at and that he's okay.

One of the worst parts is that if something happens to him you won't be the first person the military calls. I understand his intermediate family should probably be notified, but if you are very committed to your soldier then the military should inform all loved ones, including girlfriends.

Living on his post is not an option for girlfriends. Girlfriends have to live off post hopefully somewhere close by. Sometimes girlfriends like to live with their boyfriends, and if that was me having that off post rule would definitely bother me. If your soldier moves away because you have the girlfriend label on your back the military won't support your move.

Living this lifestyle is not easy, and I understand why the military can't treat girlfriends like wives. No one willingly would put up with this lifestyle if they didn't love the person that's in it. For someone to be just a girlfriend, we deal with so much that seems unbearable to outsiders.

I just believe that military girlfriends are more than just girlfriends. Girlfriends are basically wives without the label, but whether the military acknowledges us or not.

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