We've all been there - you're half asleep, you roll over to check the time, and see that he texted you. Your eyes immediately widen, and your heart skips a beat. You can't remember the last time you talked, so his simply "hey, you awake?" knots your stomach. It's 3 in the morning and you have to get up in a few hours, but what the hell, he's "worth it". You respond and patiently wait for the dots appear.

I've done this to myself too many times. Sometimes the dots never came and I literally wasted sleep waiting for him to text back. Sometimes he responded, but it was never the conversation I wanted to have with him. And despite how "eager" he seemed to talk to me in the early hours of the morning, I wouldn't hear from him again for days, weeks, even months. But somehow, he still had a grasp on me. I still waited for a text from him. When I would tell my friends about it, they would say "Well, at least he's thinking of you before he goes to bed," and for whatever reason, I'd let this comfort me. This is wrong. Ladies, this boy is not thinking of you like you are thinking of him. He is bored, possibly horny (3am is perfect booty call hours), and knows you will respond, as you always do. It's so easy to convince ourselves that somehow, in some twisted way, these sparratic texts mean something. They mean nothing.

I know so badly you want to keep responding, because this boy means something to you. Maybe he was the one night stand you never got over, the ex you desperately want back, or your high school crush. And it's so heard to leave him on read, but you know that's all he's going to do on you.

Let go of the guy who texts you at 3 a.m. You deserve more. You deserve some sleep.