Easier said than done right? Letting go isn’t easy, not for anyone. Whether it’s letting go of a toxic relationship or a friendship. Letting go doesn’t necessarily mean you’re forgetting all the good times, it just means that you’re forgiving them for the bad and moving on while trying to remember the good because that’s what really matters. Just like any normal girl, I’ve lost my fair share of friends, boyfriends, and even family members. And just like every other time it happens, I hear the same thing, “It’s going to be okay,” “you didn’t need them anyway,” “you can do way better.” People say this knowing that in your mind, if you choose to not say it out loud, you’re probably thinking “yeah right, I won’t hold my breath.,” or “you don’t know that, nothing ever goes my way.” That’s the typical response when told something like that, but in all honesty after its all said and done you realize they’re right. It does get better. Time doesn’t stop so you can mope around it keeps going to show you that your life didn’t revolve around those people. People come and go to teach you what you need in your life and what you don’t need. And while it's perfectly fine to miss people and give them second chances if they deserve them to make it up to you, it's not okay to let them continue to make the same mistake over and over again. It's okay to put your happiness first. Its okay to take care of yourself. You matter. You are important. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for making sure you’re happy. If you think someone deserves another chance, give them one, but don’t allow them to continue making the same mistake that made you choose to let them go in the first place, no matter how much you love them or how happy they make you. And if you don’t know where you stand with someone, maybe its time to stop standing around waiting for them to act right. Putting yourself first isn’t always easy, especially when you love someone because all you want is to make sure that they’re always happy. You have to be careful, you could drowning yourself while you’re trying to be someone else’s anchor. Now I’m not saying not to help someone you love, but do not allow them to hurt you, don’t let them break your heart little by little until there is nothing left. In the end, at the end of the day, you have to make sure that you happiness comes first, because if you don’t love yourself enough to do that, how can you expect someone else to? You just have to realize that people are not their downfalls, sometimes they mess up in life. Its okay if you aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Be someone’s shot of whiskey instead.

“Never regret it. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.” –Victoria Halt