I am Kayla Starling and I am a 20 year old lesbian. I am also engaged to a beautiful, and compassionate woman. I would like to be quite clear to all reading, that I love this amazing new community that I am apart of and embrace every color of the rainbow that makes us LGBTQ.
I feel through my whole life I have greatly struggled with my own identity, and not for what some people might think. As a very feminine female, I struggled every day of my existence to figure out why I was so attracted to other very feminine females. Even the biggest voices of the LGBTQ community, did not really represent what I was feeling. I had always thought that this was a passing feeling because I did not "look" gay. I remember this one time in fourth grade I had tried to come out to one of my friends moms, and she told me that "I was just going through a phase". That being said I am still very close with the family, and appreciate the fact that I even felt close enough to disclose this information to her. I am writing this today to tell all my femme sisters that it is okay to be gay! I would also like to say that just because you do not fit the stereotype does not mean that you should accept hate from anyone, and make them think that you are going through an "identity crisis". If you are feeling a certain way, trust your own instincts! You do not need anyone else's approval!
I have wished my whole life that I would find someone who would tell me, I can be gay, but not "look" gay. I never found that. I had to learn that for myself, and many other girls will have to continue to do the same. I feel as if, even in TV shows, femme lesbians are always reverting back to a male partner. This impacted me greatly while trying to discover myself, because I truely thought that I was the only femme in the world who liked other femmes. I feel so silly now, because even though it isn't in mainstream media, us femmes really are able to stay loyal to one female. Do not get me wrong, I think all types of lesbanisms are great, but I am choosing to talk about what I feel like, I needed when I was exploring my own sexuality.
I hope this will help any princess who needs to hear this, because I know I did. I waited 20 years to be who I was born to be, and do not want any other HUMAN to suffer that way. I suffered, and I mean suffered for 20 years for no reason at all. Just because I felt I didn't fit a stereotype, and I challenge every person gay or straight to challenge these stereotypes with me.
Lets support each other.
