When You Leave Your Heart In Another State

When You Leave Your Heart In Another State

Remember where your roots grow deep.
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A lot of students have one of two dreams once they graduate high school; stay as close to home as they can or move as far away as possible. Personally, I chose to move from Wisconsin to Florida to attend Florida Gulf Coast University. I chose this because I thought Florida would be amazing, plus, I received an extremely generous scholarship to help me pay for school. Once I moved, even before I moved, I realized how deep my roots actually were in Wisconsin and how moving may not be such a great idea.

Vacationing as a family was always a blast, especially when we'd visit Florida. When I moved to Florida to begin my college journey, I realized how much I would miss Wisconsin. Three years later, and I still miss my home state just as much as I did the day I boarded that plane and took off south.

Moving away to go to school is never easy, but it truly is an amazing experience. When you take yourself out of your comfort zone at home, you realize who you really are. You grow and find things out about yourself that you never knew. You find out what type of whether you actually like. You realize how different people are in the south than in the north, both good and bad.

There's also that feeling of missing out. That life is still moving forward without you, and that whenever you visit your home you feel like so much has changed but yet nothing has changed at all. Friends grow up, some fade, some become closer. You start to miss those restaurants that only your hometown has. You also realize that every time you come back home, part of you misses your college town, but you know that part of your heart and soul will always be in the city you grew up in.

Sometimes, it's the exact opposite. You may realize how you've outgrown your hometown and you're destined to travel and go to towns you know nothing about. You may never want to step foot in your home state ever again, but you cannot deny the fact that the state has shaped you and molded you into the person you are. But, you are continuously growing and learning and maturing, no matter what city your feet may be planted in at the moment.

I'm writing this because I'm here to tell you that it's OK to feel lost and confused in college, especially when you relocate.

It's OK to feel upset and sad and like nobody understands. I realized soon on that Wisconsin is the place I need to be, and once I graduate I plan on doing everything in my power to move home, and that's OK.

It's OK that where I am attending college is not the place I want to live after.

It's OK to admit that you aren't yourself when you're at college because it is not where you grew up and it is not where you can be yourself. Find a person that reminds you of home, and do not let them go. That person can make all of the difference, whether it be a friend, relative, significant other, finding that person makes a world of a difference.

Leaving your heart in another state is a sign of strength, you moved to fulfill your educational dreams and to get a step forward on your career. You have goals. It may take time, it will take a lot of time, but everything will work out in the end.

It will be OK.

You got this.

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What Your Hogwarts House Says About You

Get yourself sorted and find out where you belong in the world of witchcraft and wizardry.
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Sorting at Hogwarts is a big deal. Being sorted into a house is essentially being placed into a family while you are away from home learning about witchcraft and wizardry. Your house is made up of the people you will live with, go to classes with, play Quidditch with and everything in between. You basically spend 24/7 with them. Your Hogwarts house is your home away from home.

When you get sorted into a house, it is based on your personality traits. The people in your house are typically like-minded people who display the same characteristics as you.

When you’re a first year at Hogwarts, the minute you set foot in the castle you are swept into the Great Hall to have the ancient Sorting Hat placed on your head. This Sorting Hat decides which “family” you’ll be spending your seven years with.

For some, it is very obvious which house they will be in, due to certain personality traits they possess. For others, they may exemplify traits that fit a multitude of houses and are uncertain where they may end up.

To find out where you belong, you can take the official "Harry Potter" Sorting Hat quiz at Pottermore.com. For all you muggles out there, these are the characteristics that the houses possess and what your house says about you:

Gryffindor: The house of the brave, loyal, courageous, adventurous, daring and chivalrous. Those who stand up for others are typically Gryffindors. Brave-hearted is the most well-known Gryffindor characteristic, and Gryffindors are also known for having a lot of nerve.

Gryffindors are people who hold a multitude of qualities alongside the ones listed, making them a very well-rounded house. People who are Gryffindors are often people who could fit nicely into another house but choose to tell the sorting hat they want Gryffindor (there's that bravery). "Do what is right" is the motto Gryffindors go by.

Being a Gryffindor means that you're probably the adventurous and courageous friend, and you are usually known for doing what is right.

Ravenclaw: The house is known for their wisdom, intelligence, creativity, cleverness and knowledge. Those who value brains over brawn can be found here. Ravenclaws often tend to be quite quirky as well. "Do what is wise" is the motto they strive to follow.

Though Ravenclaws can be know-it-alls sometimes, they most likely do know what the wisest decision is.

If you are known for being the quirky friend, the smartest in the group or just great at making wise decisions, you're definitely a Ravenclaw.

Hufflepuff: This house values hard work, dedication, fair play, patience, and loyalty. Hufflepuff’s are known for being just and true. "Do what is nice" is their motto.

Hufflepuff is known as the “nice house” and believes strongly in sparing peoples feelings and being kind. This is not to say that Hufflepuffs aren't smart or courageous. Hufflepuffs just enjoy making others happy and tend to be more patient towards people.

If you ever find that you are too nice for your own good and cannot bear to hurt someone’s feelings, congratulations, you are a Hufflepuff.

Slytherin: This is the house of the cunning, prideful, resourceful, ambitious, intelligent, and determined. Slytherin's love to be in charge and crave leadership. "Do what is necessary" is the motto of this house.

Slytherin is a fairly well-rounded house, similar to the other houses. They are loyal to those that are loyal to them just as Gryffindors are and are intelligent as Ravenclaws.

Slytherin house as a whole is not evil, despite how many dark wizards come out of this house. That is merely based on the choices of those wizards (so if your friend is a Slytherin, don’t judge, it doesn’t mean they are mean people). Slytherins do, however, have a tendency to be arrogant or prideful. This is most likely due to the fact that everyone in Slytherin is exceedingly proud to be there.

What Hogwarts house you’re in says a lot about the person you are, the traits you possess and how you may act in some situations. But in the end, your house is really just your home that is always there for you. Always.


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I Prefer City Life SO Much More Than Suburban Life

Yeah, it's a pretty biased perspective.

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I've lived in Queens, New York my whole entire life, with the Big Apple just a 45-minute commute on the A train. I grew up seeing halal food carts on every few streets, meeting lots of people of different ethnicities and backgrounds and hearing New Yorkers scream profanity at each other for the smallest things (like bumping into one another while speed walking in the same direction). I also grew up with my neighbors living so close to me, they can literally hear when I sing in the shower.

Since I've lived in this environment my whole life, I've often taken it for granted. I remember visiting family out-of-state, like Florida and Pennsylvania, and envying their large houses and backyards, meanwhile, I lived in a small house that was more expensive to live in than theirs. When I asked about what they usually do on the weekends, however, my cousins would say it's always pretty boring because there's never anything to do there besides go to the mall, which is why they'd much rather live in NYC.

Though I was grateful that the city is full of hidden gems, and is never a dull place to be, I still had a desire to leave the nest, and go somewhere where I would feel, say, a culture shock. That's why for college I knew I wanted to dorm outside of the city at a SUNY rather than staying home and commuting there for school, like I would always do. Plus, MetroCards are always annoying to put money in.

I guess, in a way, coming to Stony Brook made me feel a little culture shock. There's less diversity than I'm used to, no small corner-store delis, and not a lot of people who speak with the New York slang that sounds like home to me. I don't even know where to get some good halal food around here. As for leisure activities, the city would have cool museums, art galleries, escape rooms, outdoor parks, and street performances; just a few experiences I definitely miss seeing now that I'm in college. My city friends back home would jokingly call me a "Long Islander" because I'm spending so much time trying to adjust to living in this peaceful environment.

While Stony Brook is a great escape from the hectic city life, I realized I could never get rid of the inner New York in me. It really shaped who I am and I notice it every day, even in the little things, like when I naturally walk fast, and someone asks me "Where are you rushing to go?" Of course, I'd have to explain to them that this is the pace I'm used to walking, thanks to the busy streets of Manhattan.

Overall, I'm glad that I physically came out of my comfort zone and experienced life outside of the city. It made me understand all the perks of living in the city when I hadn't realized them before and only noticed the cons. It also is refreshing to live amongst nature for a change, but in the end, the sight of tall buildings and close-knit neighborhoods will always look the most familiar to me.

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