When You Leave Your Heart In Another State

When You Leave Your Heart In Another State

Remember where your roots grow deep.
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A lot of students have one of two dreams once they graduate high school; stay as close to home as they can or move as far away as possible. Personally, I chose to move from Wisconsin to Florida to attend Florida Gulf Coast University. I chose this because I thought Florida would be amazing, plus, I received an extremely generous scholarship to help me pay for school. Once I moved, even before I moved, I realized how deep my roots actually were in Wisconsin and how moving may not be such a great idea.

Vacationing as a family was always a blast, especially when we'd visit Florida. When I moved to Florida to begin my college journey, I realized how much I would miss Wisconsin. Three years later, and I still miss my home state just as much as I did the day I boarded that plane and took off south.

Moving away to go to school is never easy, but it truly is an amazing experience. When you take yourself out of your comfort zone at home, you realize who you really are. You grow and find things out about yourself that you never knew. You find out what type of whether you actually like. You realize how different people are in the south than in the north, both good and bad.

There's also that feeling of missing out. That life is still moving forward without you, and that whenever you visit your home you feel like so much has changed but yet nothing has changed at all. Friends grow up, some fade, some become closer. You start to miss those restaurants that only your hometown has. You also realize that every time you come back home, part of you misses your college town, but you know that part of your heart and soul will always be in the city you grew up in.

Sometimes, it's the exact opposite. You may realize how you've outgrown your hometown and you're destined to travel and go to towns you know nothing about. You may never want to step foot in your home state ever again, but you cannot deny the fact that the state has shaped you and molded you into the person you are. But, you are continuously growing and learning and maturing, no matter what city your feet may be planted in at the moment.

I'm writing this because I'm here to tell you that it's OK to feel lost and confused in college, especially when you relocate.

It's OK to feel upset and sad and like nobody understands. I realized soon on that Wisconsin is the place I need to be, and once I graduate I plan on doing everything in my power to move home, and that's OK.

It's OK that where I am attending college is not the place I want to live after.

It's OK to admit that you aren't yourself when you're at college because it is not where you grew up and it is not where you can be yourself. Find a person that reminds you of home, and do not let them go. That person can make all of the difference, whether it be a friend, relative, significant other, finding that person makes a world of a difference.

Leaving your heart in another state is a sign of strength, you moved to fulfill your educational dreams and to get a step forward on your career. You have goals. It may take time, it will take a lot of time, but everything will work out in the end.

It will be OK.

You got this.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.

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"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hot air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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The Simplicity of a Beach Town

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Last summer when my friends and I decided to move down there for a few months, we knew no one but each other. However, the people there are all so friendly that it didn't take long at all to have a whole new squad of friends. The people in this beautiful beach town are unlike people anywhere else.

The locals of the Outer Banks are CAREFREE, something that I've been lucky to be around and become in the past two years. No one cares about what you look like or what you do or how much money you make. As long as you love the ocean, you'll fit in perfectly.

Everyone who lives in this beach town does have something in common: our favorite thing is the ocean. Not a day goes by that I don't run to the ocean to simply take a dip. The ocean is my shower, and the ocean is my favorite place, the ocean makes me feel FREE. The feeling of diving into a wave and coming up for air, or swimming as far as you can to find the sandbar. The ocean is big, but when you stop worrying about the creatures underneath and the immensity of it, it doesn't seem scary, just a huge place of happiness and life.

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