To Those Whose S.O. Is Leaving For Basic Training

There Is Nothing Basic About Your Significant Other Leaving For Basic Training

No matter how long you've been dating or how long you've known about their decision to join the military, you'll never be prepared for them to leave.


Basic Training is a real test for those who are in a relationship while going through it. Can you make it through without talking every day? Can you make it through not seeing each other for 8 weeks?

Can you make it through not knowing what that person is doing on a daily basis? It's a test, and it's even harder for those who have to stay and wait for their significant others back home.

Write letters for both of your benefits

Write a letter every day if you can. You won't be able to send a letter until you receive one which is about the second week of basic training. In the letters, you can put pictures in there but that's it.

No food, perfume (includes spraying the note in perfume), no items, nothing that's considered contraband. When you write to them, don't mention how much you miss them.

Instead of saying, "I miss you so much...I want you home" say, "I'm so proud of you and I can't wait to see you again." They get time every night before bed to read and write letters.

You may not receive a letter every day, but they're getting yours for sure. In my letters to my boyfriend who is currently in the Navy, I talk about what I did that day, what kind of things we will do when he gets back, etc.

The letters at the end of the day are the things that motivate them throughout the day, so for both of your peace minds, write as much as you can.

Hang out with friends

Your friends, no matter if they're going through the same thing or have no idea what it feels like, will try to help you through the next 2 months. They will want to go out and have fun with you, so let them.

You owe it to yourself to dress up and go out while your S.O is gone. As much as you want to stay home and sulk, your friends and S.O want you to go out and enjoy yourself too.

Stay as busy as you can

So if your friends are busy and have other plans to where they can't hang out with you, find something else to do. Watch your favorite show, do some online shopping, etc.

If you have a job, try to get more hours in. It keeps your mind off things and you get paid more. Win-win. Also, staying occupied will make the time go by incredibly faster than just sitting and waiting for graduation day.

Improve yourself while they're gone

At basic training, your S.O is not only improving physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. While they are working themselves every day, improve yourself as well. Go to the gym, try cooking something new, try to educate yourself on something, etc.

This also gives you something to talk about in your letters back and forth. Just like how letters are the motivation for them throughout the day, you should have the same motivation to improve yourself.

Stay in touch with their family

Their family will miss them too. No matter if they like you or not, still text them and tell them you hope they have a good day, try to have dinners with them, try to come over for holidays, go to church with them (if they go to church), talk about what you're doing while they're gone, etc.

I know it may seem awkward if you and your S.O aren't married or engaged to really have a relationship with his family, but it will show them just how badly you want to be with their son or daughter.

They will gain so much more respect for you and your relationship. Not to mention, when you go to their graduation ceremony after basic training it will make the car ride and the stay less awkward.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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