It feels like a breakup.

Probably one of the saddest things I have ever gone through was the dissolving of friendships I thought would last a lifetime but only lasted about a year.

Y'all, I take my friendships seriously. Once a person comes into my life, I hate for them to ever leave. Friendships, companions, and even acquaintances mean so much to me. Human connection is a beautiful thing, yet when relationships go sour it may be time to sever ties. I realized this in my friend group. Sometimes you are better off by yourself than with people who treat you poorly.

There are several reasons why friend groups turn into negative energy waste bins.

For one there is the underlying struggle for power. There is always a leader in every friend group. Depending on whether people in the group are satisfied with their roles does the group stay intact. If you are the one who always makes decisions you might find others in the group are becoming more irritated with you.

Getting comfortable with certain people allows us to feel more comfortable to treat them poorly. However, true friends do not do this. The beginning of a friendship is like a honeymoon phase. Everyone loves everyone. Yet, stick around long enough for the baggage to come out and you might find yourself packing up and leaving faster than they could unpack all their baggage on you. No one ever lets out their true colors until a month or two after the relationship has begun. If your friends begin antagonizing you about things you do that don't affect them, its time to leave.

There was one girl, who literally began hating me because I couldn't decide whether I wanted to go to the movies, a party, or ice skating. I struggle with making decisions especially when they are all excellent choices. Instead of accepting me for this flaw, she stopped inviting me to lunch every day, stopped talking to me, and began talking negatively about me to other people. I should have known that she was never a good person. Especially, when she was on drugs when I took her to Walmart, and she didn't even tell me, but that is beside the point. Sometimes it is easy for me to overlook the destructive characteristics of other people. With so many incredible people in the world, the ones who treat you with contempt are not worth your time. Find people who invite you to be yourself and never make you feel ashamed for being the way you are.

For someone who has been there, I promise you will enjoy life so much more if you let go. True friends give you the freedom to be yourself. There is no restrictions, annoyances, or justifications. There is no drama with my friends. Yeah, we can get on each other's nerves sometimes, but you will never catch me saying a negative thing about any of my dear friends. If you have to talk bad about someone behind their back, even to vent, its time to let go.

I have about three best friends, but I am over friend groups. Maybe you should be too.