I have always been a lover of alone time. There is nothing more relaxing to me than being able to take a night and designate that time to myself, whether that be a long bath, cleaning up an unorganized, clothes tossed everywhere, tornado of a room, or watching my favorite movie (or three). I am also a victim of FOMO, fear of missing out, as I think most of us are. Learning to love the time I have for myself to take a deep breathe, and also learning that I do not have to be a part of everything has been a long process, but it is possible and I am so thankful for it.

We spend so much time trying to be apart of everything so we can post a picture on Instagram, or make a snap chat story about it, or to just say that we were there. I am so bad about this. It would be so much more beneficial to us if we could just enjoy the moment that we are in, and remember the memories as they come. I feel like sometimes I plan out everything exactly the way I want it to happen and then when something doesn't work out the way I thought it would I get so disappointed. My anxiety takes over at this point and I get frustrated and it ends up ruining the whole day for me. if I would just let things happen at the natural speed God planned them to be I would enjoy the time that I spend with my friends and family so much more. It is so important for relationships to be able to have spontaneity. That is what makes our lives full of thrill and excitement. Being able to enjoy the time you are given without having to have it all planned out gives you room for error and for that unexpected turn. This also makes time move a lot slower I think. Sometimes I forget that I don't have to fit everything into one day. If there is anything we have on our side it's time.

You have to be cautious when dealing with alone time, even if it becomes your favorite thing; because there is a difference in down time and exiling yourself from everything that moves, and turning your room into a hibernation unit. Been there done that. Enjoying time to yourself is so important because while you might only get a few hours of it, it teaches us that we can be by ourselves and be alone without being lonely. Being Lonely is such a different experience then being alone and enjoying that time to yourself. Being lonely is not fun, and can make your emotional state really take a bad turn. I think having time to ourselves is an essential pat of learning who we are, and the things we like, and gives us time to get our thoughts together. Having alone time also helps you appreciate your own space. I think as we grow older and start forming relationships we forget that, hopefully, one day we will get to share a space, a day, and a life with someone; and all the time you had to yourself will no longer be only yours. Cherish the time we are given to learn to love ourselves in a way that only comes with being able to understand your boundaries.

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble." - Matthew 6:34