Dear Fellow People-Pleasers,
You do not owe everyone everything you have. While it feels good to say yes and to see the look of relief on the person who is asking a favor or something of you, you may find yourself burnt out and unable to give yourself what you need. It is absolutely critical that the ‘yes people’ of the world realize the validity in saying no in order to protect their personhood, sense of safety, and energies.
When we exert all of our force, love, and light into everything and everyone around us, too often our own spirit may become neglected. We all must learn to take the time to spend with ourselves and for ourselves unhindered by any exterior obligations.
I promise that saying no will become easier and you will start to recognize how healthy this practice is for your own growth as well as for the growth of your relationships. It is too easy to find a sense of validation in the response of those we bend over backwards for, seeing their happiness gives us all the happiness we think we need, even if they would not do the same for us.
You can cancel plans, you can give yourself a break, you can sleep a little longer and take the time to do whatever it is you feel in your core that you need to do to feel whole. A journey towards healing requires that we take these moments for ourself and that we honor the truth of these necessities.
It is not a selfish act to pay attention to your inner voice. Do not neglect your own spirit in your overwhelming love for the world around you. You can do this. Be you. Do you. For you.