10 Things I've Learned While Being A Teenager

10 Things I've Learned While Being A Teenager

I've learned a lot but these are the top 10 things...


In four days I'll be 20 years old, it feels like I've been alive for a lot longer than that. But in almost 20 years I feel like I've learned a lot about life and about myself- some good things, some bad, and some things that are just completely irrelevant.

1. Being A Teenager Is The Time To Figure Yourself Out

At 11 I came out as bi, 12 I came out as gay, and 18 I came out as trans. Being a teenager has really been a time for me to figure myself and my identity out. It's sucked but its been good. Its been hard because its not easy to realize your true self but it needs to be done.

2. High School Isn't As Bad As Everyone Says

It might not have been as bad for me because I graduated a year early, but high school really wasn't that bad. I wasn't popular, I wasn't athletic, I wasn't anything, I just was. High school got me through to the next stage of my life and it wasn't horrible.

3. College Is AMAZING At First And Then It Sucks 

College gives you freedom at first, and it's great. You think everything is perfect because you finally feel free to be who you are and you are on your own. Then you hit your junior year and realize that the classes are actually hard and you're broke and eating Lunchables and miss your mom. And that's when it hits you that college sucks.

4. You Lose Some People And It's Good That You Do

Not all of your friends are going to stay in your life, and that's a really good thing. Whether it's the one's from high school or the one's you make your first month in college. Even if it's your best friend that you think you'll never lose, you lose contact with people and it's perfectly fine.

5. Changing Your Appearance Is Great

When you turn 18 you can get tattoos and if that's your thing then it will change your life. Or if it's just a different haircut or color then do your thing. Either way, changing your appearance is healthy and refreshing.

6. Your Parent's Won't See You As An Adult

Even when you turn 18 your parent's won't see you as an adult, you're still going to be a child. If you go to college your parent's are still going to worry about you every single second. It will get on your nerves and it's going to suck but just try to be patient because they love you unconditionally.

7. Dating Is Stressful 

You're more than likely going to start dating and the first few people you date are going to be horrible people. You might even date someone that will ruin your life. You may fall in love and get hurt. You might find someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Whatever happens, keep your head up kid. It's all going to work out in the end.

8. Getting A Job Sucks

You will have probably had at least one job by now if not multiple and it was either really bad or really rewarding. Having a job can either be a really good life lesson because it teaches you what you don't want to do or it can lead you down a path towards what you do want to do.

9. You'll Surprise Yourself

In your teenage years you will do things and learn things that you never thought were possible which is insane. You are going to grow so much in those six years that you wouldn't even be able to recognize the person that comes out on the other side. You will grow in your teenage years

10. You Will Make It

Even if you don't think you will, you're going to make it.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.


It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)


Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)


Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)


Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

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Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes



Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)


Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)


Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)


Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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