Actually, Ladies, Wear Whatever You Want, Whenever You Want

Actually, Ladies, Wear Whatever You Want, Whenever You Want

My clothing choice shouldn't determine my treatment from others.
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I recently read an article that held the viewpoint that in order to be taken seriously as a grown woman we (women) needed to dress professionally every day and leave the gym clothes at home. While I understand being professional and dressing appropriately for situations in your daily life I think it’s ridiculous that another woman had the audacity to tell me and women everywhere that, “If you want to be treated like a grown woman you have to act and dress like one.”

My clothing doesn't determine my treatment and if I am in leggings and a T-shirt that doesn’t give another human the right to treat me any differently than women in a dress and heels.

I go to school full-time, I work a part-time job, I am actively involved in several clubs and honor societies, and I do enjoy sleeping occasionally. Honestly, I know some days I look rough. Long nights of studying or working force me to choose 30 extra minutes of sleep over getting dressing up for the day ahead. But I don’t find anything wrong with my style. I know what I look like when I leave my house and if I wasn’t okay with it I would change my routine.

I and women everywhere don’t need another person telling us we aren’t good enough because of the way we look. Sure, I feel good on days when I dress up. I enjoy dressing nice and do so when I can, but dressing up every day to go sweat walking to and from classes on campus is not a priority of mine. I feel just as beautiful in my Nike shorts and a huge t-shirt. I feel comfortable in leggings and a T-shirt with my hair in a ponytail and glasses on. I don’t need to dress up to be confident in my everyday life.

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So thank you to the author of that article, for making me realize that yes dressing up is awesome but that dressing down and being comfortable isn’t a bad thing. I’m not any less of a “grown woman” in my Nike shorts and t-shirt than you are in your dress and heels.

Everyone should strive to feel beautiful in their own skin and encourage others to do the same.

Cover Image Credit: Kassidy Abernathy

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

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When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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