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Ladies, We Are The Problem

Stop Trying To Be That Jerk's Exception

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Ladies, We Are The Problem

It's a story we've all heard before. We've all been there.

It's not him, it's you. You are the problem. I am the problem. All women are the problem.

You have feelings; You dream of more. You want more. You get attached. Your heart and your mind get attached. You know that the relationship isn't going anywhere, but you still hope for more. You want to be the exception. You want to put an official label on it. You want more, so you hope and dream for more. You let him walk all over you because you think maybe, just maybe, he'll change. Maybe, he'll commit. Maybe, you'll be happy together...as a couple, as an official couple.

But, it isn't just you. It's all of us. I've been there. You've been there. We've all been there.

We've all encountered this certain species. This guy is the guy that you want to introduce to your family. You talk to him about your friends and sisters. He's a perfect student, going to be a doctor. He's close with his family, is good with children, saves cats from trees in his free time, and texts you...occasionally, almost every other day, usually. He's perfect, right?.

This guy is going to take you on a date one night. You're going to go to dinner, and he's going to pay...totally a date. Even though he told you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he'll continue to take you out on dates. Then, one night, he's going to make his move. He's going to kiss you, but it never goes anywhere. It never turns into anything real.

If you're reading this with embarrassed red cheeks and a shameful feeling in your stomach, don't worry. Don't feel bad. Almost every girl has been here. You fall for this guy. What you're doing isn't wrong. But, is it right? Does it feel right? He clearly must like you, right? He has to like you. He has to like you. He just has to. There's no possible way he couldn't like you. You're great; you're amazing. You're smart, funny, and strong.

But, when you try to put a label on your relationship, he'll tell you, "I told you that I didn't want to be in a relationship."

It's frustrating; I know. But, you are the problem.

This guy doesn't want anything serious; he doesn't want anything real. You ignore this, and you're letting him think that the way he's treating you is acceptable. You're making him think that it's okay to do this to you.

We let this guy walk all over us. They take us on fake dates, and in the process, we let them into our hearts. We develop feelings for them; we get attached.

As women, we need to stop being the problem. We need to break this cycle. This idea of "the fling" needs to end. We deserve so much more than a fling.

Instead of being the problem, let's be the solution. Let's wait for the real thing, and put an end to this nightmare. This guy wants your time, your laughter, your attention, and your reactions. But, he doesn't want you. He doesn't want anything real.

Stop giving that jerk your time, your laughter, and your attention. Don't give that jerk your heart, and don't let that jerk get inside your head. You deserve more, and that jerk doesn't deserve you. He's nothing more than a jerk, but you don't have to be the problem.

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