On any given Sunday you will find you and your girl friends sitting in a circle reminiscing about the weekend. You'll find yourself laughing at the dumb things you said and did. You'll gossip about the drama and roll your eyes at the constant he-said, she-said. But, unfortunately it's not always laughs and smiles. Sometimes, these meetings end in tears and heartbreak.
College boys are among the few things we just can't seem to understand, right along with accounting. They just don't make sense and sometimes they just don't add up. No matter how many times you punch those numbers in your calculator or approach the situation a different way you will still find the same result. Your calculator and your brain will read error. I have tried numerous times to interpret and understand a 20 year old male brain, but have always failed.
Countless times I have had my guy friends come up to me for girl advice. What do you think about her? How should I respond to this text message? Ugh she texted me again, what do I do? All of these situations lead me to ask the same question: Do you like her? Unfortunately, and I hate to break it to you ladies, the answer 99 percent of the time is, Hell no! I just think she's hot.
The male brain is wired to fear commitment and relationships. They have this irrational thought that if they begin a relationship then their lives as they know it will end. You could be the prettiest, smartest and coolest girl that they have ever met, and they probably will start to like you, but the second they feel like its going one step farther they shut down.
The moral of this story is, it's not you, it's them. And it actually is. A stigma has been created and altered the college male brain to make them think relationships are bad and if they start to care about someone other than themselves, or their pledge brothers, that they are whipped and soft. It is not your fault.
So ladies listen up -- never let someone you start to like hurt you. You can't change the way a college boy is, no matter how hard you try. I have watched my guy friends go from girl to girl and it doesn't even faze them. So don't fall into their traps. What they say to you might be true, you might actually be the girl they can see themselves with. But, that doesn't mean they want or plan to. No girl should ever feel hurt or used because they let themselves start to fall for a boy that ended up making her feel useless. There is someone out there for everyone, but that doesn't mean you should go looking for it. Your time will come and you will find that one person that makes you feel on top of the world.
College is the time to make mistakes and fall for that boy that isn't right for you. But you can never let him keep you down. If something doesn't go your way, pick yourself up off the ground and show that nothing can faze you. You are beautiful, strong and independent. Never let someone make you feel useless and worthless, don't let someone have that power.
Always remember, college isn't a time to find your husband, it's the time to find yourself.
