I think that we have a tendency of either A) minimizing insecurities or B) claiming that they are way easier to fix than they are. We all have our insecurities, and I’m not one who can say too much about fixing them, but I can say what not to do in terms of your insecurities. I’m not given the credentials to teach a 12-Step program --if I were then I probably wouldn’t be stuck in school. But I can say that I have been giving this advice to more than a handful of people lately dealing with insecurities.
It’s not funny feeling not good enough. It’s not fun feeling unlovable. It’s not fun just feeling not enough for whatever or whoever.
However, you cannot project your insecurities onto other people in hopes that they will be able to fix them. You can’t look at someone to fix you, and you can’t have someone else assume your problems hoping that maybe they’ll go away from you. That just creates bigger problems and causes issues for more than yourself.
In this same nature, you can’t choose to fix people in an attempt to get the same gratification of fixing your own insecurities.
That’s not fair to you, and that’s not fair to others.
You can’t let your insecurities dictate how you plan out your next steps in life towards your goals. You can’t let your insecurities tell you what your ambitions are, or what you want, or what you need. This is, of course, so much easier said than done.
If you aren’t feeling good enough for something, then you are already steps closer to talking yourself out of it. Our fears and our insecurities tell us what we are and aren’t good enough for. And that’s scary in itself.
However, you can’t let your insecurities and fears control you. That’s what holds us back from so many promising adventures and experiences. It’s caring too much, and being so careful with our time that we quite literally let it crash right by us.
It’s not as much about solving our insecurities as it is controlling them before they can get control of us. It’s not about the person who has the least insecurities, it’s about how much reign they have over them.
It’s about choosing to be the person who won’t let their insecurities burden them.
