Our society is unique in the fact that every individual can convey his or her own opinions. People have the freedom to formulate their own opinions and beliefs, and through this ability, they technically should be able to define their own individuality without being judged. But sadly, I have found that this is not always the case.
Earlier this week, while talking with a group of close friends in between classes, an acquaintance of mine walked by and asked to join us. Of course, excited to talk with the new friend, we indulged in small talk, discussing classes, schedules, and plans for the weekend, when suddenly she grabbed her phone, mouth agape. “Did you hear Hillary Clinton’s emails have been found?” she said, “I can’t wait to see her fail this fall.”
And with wide eyes, my friends sat there, unable to comprehend what to do next. While this comment isn’t unusual in our nation, the election is obviously a very touchy subject. But with an unknown stranger, surrounded by my friends, some Democrats, and some Republicans did not make it any easier. One of my friends pitched in, explaining her view on why she approved of Hillary, only to be shut down seconds later by the opinionated acquaintance. The girl continued to tell us how our opinions were incorrect and how she was right. There is a time for debate, but with an unknown individual who was so obviously looking for a fight, this was neither the time nor group of people to discuss this touchy subject matter with.
This has not been the first time any of us has heard opinionated comments. If you want my honest opinion, it’s phenomenal that you have your own opinions and ways of approaching life, but that does not mean you have to force your ideals into my life.
Forcing opinions leads to arguments and damaged relationships. While debates can be seen as healthy arguments, there is a difference between discussing opinions and being intolerant to other’s values.
Our society has turned to a polarizing view on beliefs. Rather than trying to find a compromise, the new standard has become “My way or the highway,” ultimately causing destruction as we expect others to abandon their values. It’s important to realize that we must be tolerant of other people’s values and cultures, recognizing that no one has the right to force their way of life onto anyone else.
When having a debate, it’s important to remember a few things:
When a disagreement arises, a discussion needs to focus on the merits of each position, rather than the denigration of others.
Distorting the truth weakens all credibility.
While it may be difficult to comprehend another person’s mindset, it is important to realize that compromise is key.
Just because more people hold a particular view does not make it right.
Communication is more than just talking; debates require listening as well.
Like everyone else, I have my own opinions and values. I believe it is important to stand strong in what you believe, but just because I believe one thing, does not mean I do not associate with people who believe something different.
We are all unique and interesting individuals, but through this inability to be flexible or understanding, we distance ourselves from one another. We must focus on bettering ourselves and our mentalities rather than trying to change others.
