At the start of freshman year, I along with everyone else waited in anticipation for the day when we were allowed to finally live (almost) on our own. We may have had a little homesickness, but it passed as we enjoyed feelings of freedom. Fast forward to junior year, and after the first week of school all I want to do is return home. Why is it that I, now nearly three years older than I was when entering college, feel this way? One word- Reality.
Junior year is known as the most difficult to date in both high school and college. It is in this year that it becomes crucial to make connections, do internships, and plan for the dreaded senior composition. Thus, this year unlike any of the previous one's feels like crunch time, a race to the finish and beginning real life. Just the thought of applying to graduate schools can leave my head spinning, but it is a phase I know I will inevitably complete. Regardless, the dose of reality that accompanies junior year has made me crave living under the wing of my parents for just a bit longer.
Over the summer I began to get used to having my family occasionally cook for me, help me out when I needed it, and offer the comforts of home. I realized that the freedom so many desire when living on their own at a young age is slightly overrated. Now don't get me wrong I like to be able to make my own decisions and live independently, but it is not so bad to be with your parents and family for just a little while longer.
I've realized that often in college and in high-school, I along with many others take for granted the time, effort, and sometimes tough love that parents put into raising you. As I grow older, the reality of being apart from them as I continue with my life and schooling saddens me. However, I know that the things they have provided me with, and the lessons they have taught me will make me well equipped to handle the challenges that occur in emerging adulthood.
So to those freshman coming into their first year of college, happy to distance themselves and push away from their parents or caregivers nest, remember that when reality strikes, those are the people who will be there for you. Let them help you set up your dorm room, talk to them on the phone, and don't shut them out completely on your quest to gain independence. We will have all of the time in the world to be alone, and live by our rules, so for the short time you have before junior year in my case, let them in. Trust me, it will be worth it.