Today's standards of dating are twisted. That's not to say that they are wrong but slightly backwards. Modern day dating has become casual sex with a chance of dinner and a movie. Whereas it used to be casual dinner and movie with a possibility of sex. Jim, on the other hand, holds himself to his own standard and it is working. Here's how to be more like Jim Halpert
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1. Be there for her even if you're not getting anything in return.
It's simple. Jim was there for Pam. Despite Pam's early engagement Jim went out of his way to make her life easier. Chivalry isn't extinct but can be found on the endangered list. When Halpert does something kind for Pam he isn't thinking about himself but he is thinking about Pam's feelings. Whether it's holding a door for her or listening to her vent, don't do it for yourself.
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2. Sacrifice.
This is a word we don't hear as often as we should. In a world where it's all about me, me, me and I, I , I relationships struggle because people get too caught up in themselves. This is where Jim thrives. He doesn't restrict, restrain or hold Pam back. He doesn't get in the way of her following her passion in art and pursuing her dream all while supporting her. It's not easy but it only strengthens their bond. This is why sacrifice is important.
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3. If you want to be more than bump buddies, friendship should a priority.
Before Jim and Pam even thought about locking lips, a strong friendship was established. This didn't change when their relationship changed. Being able to poke fun and joke with each other makes your day easier and sometimes that's needed. Jim takes it upon himself to include Pam with all of his office pranks. I mean after all it's called boy FRIEND and girl FRIEND.
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4. It's okay to talk about your feelings.
Tell her how you feel. Keeping things to yourself is not healthy for either person. Talking about what you feel isn't weak and it's a lot less confusing in the long run. If Jim would've missed this one his life would've turned out a lot different. Don't let your ego or pride get in the way of opening up to the person you care about the most. They are there because they care for you so let them do it. Let them care for you.
We can't all be Jim and we shouldn't want to, but we can take a couple tips from him and apply them to our daily lives. Whether you're already in a relationship, or headed there, remember to keep these four things in mind.
