I am a firm believer in true love. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone, that there is someone out there who will eventually sweep you off your feet and make you wonder how you ever dealt with anyone else. Someone you will get through fights and hardships with. You’ll get to spend so many anniversaries and holidays together and it will feel like you’ve known them your whole life. And when that time comes it will be amazing. But, it might not be today and that is okay.

Because before you have someone who you can’t imagine your life without or someone who has your whole heart or someone who understands you better than you understand yourself. You need to be all of those things: your own rock, your own anchor, and your own soul-mate. Understand yourself better than anyone can. Don’t look back and hate yourself for altering everything you’ve ever wanted for someone who you know isn’t ready.

That’s why it's okay to wait. You don’t have to find that perfect someone today, or tomorrow, or the day after that. Some of us, including me and most girls out there, we fall fast and when we fall, we fall hard. We love feeling wanted. And that right there is what has gotten us hurt a few times now and then. But we always pick ourselves up and try to move on; but for someone of us it's not so easy, simply because we love being in love. But the thing is before we enter any serious type of relationship we need to feel like we’re already complete. And we need to be able to feel complete while being completely alone. Too many of us depend on others to make us happy and we’d be lying if we said we haven’t done this ourselves. We have dreams. Plans that involve ourselves. We’re at a pivotal point in our life where you get to decide where you want to go. Maybe you want to travel, or move across country just because you want to. You don’t need to find your true love just yet. You don’t have to settle down or alter your plans for anyone just yet. You may be ready to do all these amazing things, but not be ready to fall in love just yet and that’s okay.

For some you’re just starting college, for others, you’re coming to the end of your college career. No matter where you are, you could be just starting to find out what you want to do with your life. You don’t need a better half. You should want to be whole. You should consider yourself and your happiness as more important than any relationship you’ll be involved in. No, it doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you able to know that you can and will be happy alone, no matter how many heart breaks come. Let's face it, someone of us have too many stupid decisions to make before we decide what our fate is going to be. You have the rest of your lives to find someone who gives you a whole new meaning to the work love. So, for now, just be okay with being just you. That day will come, I promise. Just, maybe not today.