It's OK To Not Have Your Life Planned Out

It's OK To Not Have Your Life Planned Out

Life never goes as planned, so why force it?

I have always been a planner. It's just who I am. A lot of people say that they aren't comfortable with uncertainty, but I take it to a whole new level. I absolutely can't stand the idea of uncertainty clouding any aspect of my life. I need to be aware of the path that I'm on and where I'm headed. I don't like to leave things up to chance - I like to be able to take full control of my life.

Going into college, I thought I had it all figured out. During my senior year of high school, I targeted my future career and had that affect all of my decisions in regards to the future. My program of study was only offered at three of the schools in my state, so this chosen career path heavily influenced where I ended up going to college. I planned out all the courses that I needed to take over the next four years, and already had my post-grad plans outlined. With these plans in place, I felt very certain about my future.

Certainty is an incredibly short-lived thing. As I navigated my way through my freshman year of college, I started to realize that everything I had planned for myself wasn't the right fit for me personally. I began to doubt myself and even started to dread having to take all the courses I needed in order to get a degree in my chosen program. The thought of switching my major scared me, and I never thought I would be one of these people who couldn't decide what to major in.

However, I took the plunge. I switched my major and minor and began a fresh start in my undergraduate studies for sophomore year. And you know what? I strongly believe that it was the best decision I've ever made. So not only did I completely change the course of my life, I was perfectly content with it.

I thought that if I changed my major, I would not be able to graduate time or would have to scramble in order to take all the classes that were required for completing the degree. But by some miracle, it turns out that not only will I graduate on time, I might even be able to graduate a whole semester early, something that wouldn't have been possible if I stuck to my original plan. It's amazing what kind of unforeseen opportunities can appear once you decide to follow your heart instead of your brain.

I encourage you to resist the urge to plan out every second of your life and instead just do what you think is right and watch it play out for itself. I know more than anyone how difficult it is to relinquish this kind of control, but the possible outcome is well worth it.

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1. They will do anything for you, literally.

My stepdad has done any and every thing for me. From when I was little until now. He was and still is my go-to. If I was hungry, he would get me food. If something was broken, he would fix it. If I wanted something, he would normally always find a way to get it. He didn't spoil me (just sometimes), but he would make sure that I was always taken care of.

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2. Life lessons.

Yup, the tough one. My stepdad has taught me things that I would have never figured out on my own. He has stood beside me through every mistake. He has been there to pick me up when I am down. My stepdad is like the book of knowledge: crazy hormonal teenage edition. Boy problems? He would probably make me feel better. He just always seemed to know what to say. I think that the most important lesson that I have learned from my stepdad is: to never give up. My stepdad has been through three cycles of leukemia. He is now in remission, yay!! But, I never heard him complain. I never heard him worry and I never saw him feeling sorry for himself. Through you, I found strength.

3. He loved me as his own.

The big one, the one that may seem impossible to some step parents. My stepdad is not actually my stepdad, but rather my dad. I will never have enough words to explain how grateful I am for this man, which is why I am attempting to write this right now. It takes a special kind of human to love another as if they are their own. There had never been times where I didn't think that my dad wouldn't be there for me. It was like I always knew he would be. He introduces me as his daughter, and he is my dad. I wouldn't have it any other way. You were able to show me what family is.

So, dad... thanks. Thanks for being you. Thanks for being awesome. Thanks for being strong. Thanks for loving me. Thanks for loving my mom. Thanks for giving me a wonderful little sister. Thanks for being someone that I can count on. Thanks for being my dad.

I love you!

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Teaching Is An Amazing Career, It's More Powerful Than We Give It Credit For

Teaching is a career that is heavily overlooked — it is much more powerful than people realize.


When it comes to teaching, it's not always easy or fun. But, let me ask you this: what career really is easy or fun all the time? Being challenged can beneficial. Otherwise, you are just going through the same routine over and over. Teaching will definitely keep you on your toes because there's always something happening.

People seem to think teachers just lecture on information that they hope their students remember for the test. You know what? Those people are dead wrong. Teaching is more than that. Teaching means having the passion and drive to educate children. Teaching is turning something dull to something that students will find more interesting and enjoyable.

Teaching is also about providing tools and other resources for students in order for them to succeed, especially the ones who tend to struggle in school. Being able to give those tools to help them accomplish their goals is extremely rewarding. A teacher will work with a student who is behind on his/her reading skills to have him/her be right at the level he/she needs to be by the end of the school year. Not many jobs provide a reward quite like guiding a student, if not more, to success.

Although it focuses on academics, teaching is not just about that. Sure, being an effective teacher is key, but there are other aspects that are just as significant. As a teacher, you also have to connect with your students. Knowing your students on a personal level is so important. The connection can build respect that will, in turn, help them to succeed. Plus, students spend more time with you on a day-to-day basis than they do with their parents — isn't that frightening? So, you have to be able to support them and let them know them that you are there for them if they are having trouble.

Additionally, that connection you build with your students can last a lifetime. You can witness the growth of a student right in front of you. In fact, I am still very close with some of my teachers from elementary school. Many of them inspired me to become a teacher. Because of those great bonds I built, I had the opportunity to intern with some of my past teachers, which was a rewarding experience for everyone. Being able to develop such a connection with someone so different in age is something that is so powerful and that doesn't come with many other careers.

Teaching is so amazing. There are so many layers and beautiful aspects to it. Again, it can be difficult, but it's also a lot of fun. Not many people can say they have fun and laugh every day at work. I also truly believe that not many other people can say their careers provide as rewarding of a feeling as teaching does. To be able to make such a difference in someone's life is an incredible thing. Teaching is my passion. I know teaching will not be only gratifying but something that will bring me pure joy.

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