It's Okay To Not Be Experiencing Love At The Same Time As Everyone Around You
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It's Okay To Not Be Experiencing Love At The Same Time As Everyone Around You

You are NOT behind.

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It's Okay To Not Be Experiencing Love At The Same Time As Everyone Around You
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The timing of relationships is a mystery. Some people have timelines in their head of how everything is going to work, however, the timeline changes as people grow older.

When I was 12, I thought I would have my first kiss at 15, my first real boyfriend at 16, be in love by 17, and be married by 22. Boy, have things changed. My personal timeline of how I think things will happen has completely changed. I can’t imagine being married at 22.

This timeline is the normal timeline for a twelve-year-old to think, but the norm is different now. Most people have their first kiss or relationship by the time high school is over and are married by 26 or 27. But this is MOST people.

There seems to be an emphasis on this timeline of when we are supposed to do things like lose our virginity, have our first kiss or our first relationship. This timeline is false and it’s not how everyone operates.

There is so much pressure to stick to this progression of experiences, especially if you’re someone waiting for the right person for that moment in your life.

By the time I was 18, the majority of my friends had lost their virginity, and by the end of my freshman year of college, most of my friends were in love. I wasn’t. I still haven’t had a serious relationship or found anything that I’m looking for in that department.

If you are like me and the pressure of your friends or the typical societal timeline doesn’t fit yours: that is okay.

It’s okay to experience these things later than some do because it means you have more time to figure out what you want.

I’m not going to tell you that being single is the best time of your life and a time of growth because, to be honest with you, I’m tired of hearing that myself.

The one thing I can say is that you can learn a lot about what you would like for a future relationship and your life in general by watching those around you. But don’t observe so much that you think your future relationship will go the exact same way.

Cuffing season and spring fever are difficult if you’re single, however, it’s difficult to think that you need to prescribe to a timeline.

You are NOT behind.

Maybe your great love and experiences is right around the corner.

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