It’s okay to walk away. It’s okay that you don’t have the energy or the want to try anymore. It’s okay that you love someone so much, but you don’t want to be with them anymore. The fights? The obsessiveness? The name-calling? The on and off again relationship? The threatening? Sometimes, it’s way too much for a person to handle. YOU don’t have to handle it. That is not healthy. That is NOT love, not true love anyway. I promise to you, giving up can bring you so much energy, so much relief, and so much happiness.
You love him and a part of you always will. It’s okay to give up on someone when being with them is just as much pain as living without them. Being with them can bring you so low, lower than you’ve ever been before. When you feel low more than you feel happy, that’s when you know you need to go. The pain may hurt to give up, but staying in this type of relationship will hurt a hell of a lot more if you stay. The pain will fade when you no longer have someone calling you a b*tch. The pain will fade when you no longer have someone telling you that “you can’t make a hoe a housewife” just because you accepted someone’s friend request that you maybe spoke two words to before. The pain will fade when you don’t have someone telling you that they don’t love you anymore because of a silly argument. Most importantly, the pain will fade when you don’t have someone screaming hurtful things at you….things they may not necessarily mean at the time. But, does it really matter if they didn’t mean it? It still hurts and it’s still something no one should even hear. This pain will haunt you if you continue to go through it. I promise, it’s okay to give up on that person who yells hurtful things at you.
It’s hard to give up on someone you’ve put so much time and effort into, but sometimes it’s what you need to do for yourself. It’s something you need to do to put yourself in a better atmosphere, to make yourself happy again. Don’t allow someone to control your happiness or your life. Don’t allow someone to choose what you do in life. You are your own person, you make your own decisions. When someone tries to enforce what you should do, who you should be friends with, when you should go to bed, what you should post, who you can talk to, when you should talk them, etc. and it’s not your parents, then that’s not right. You’re not their pet, you’re their significant other. If you’re in a situation like this, then please get out. It will only get worse. It’s okay to give up on this person. You don’t deserve it.
At the end of the day, you need to think of yourself and your worth. If someone is treating you like this, then they don’t see your worth. If you truly love someone, you don’t do these awful things to them. Love makes you do crazy things, but that’s no excuse for an emotionally abusive, controlling relationship. However, for your sake, it’s okay to give up on this person. LEAVE. You deserve so much more. It’s okay to give up because God will send you that person that is meant for you, that person that will sweep you off your feet and appreciate you for the person you are. Unlike they did.
The pain will hurt to give up, but go by this….
“Breathe. You’re going to be okay. This pain you feel is going to pass. Maybe not in this exact moment or today or tomorrow, but sometime soon. The hurt will fade. Don’t give up before things get better. You may be wounded, but you aren’t broken. YOU CAN AND WILL HEAL!”
XOXO,
The girl who gave up and is now living life for herself
