If your family is anything like mine, you probably get asked why you don’t have a boyfriend on the regular. All of your cousins have a significant other, but not you. Your whole extended family is probably wondering what’s wrong with you at this point. You’re in college and you’ve only had one boyfriend and your entire family hated him, then he ended up cheating on you. But maybe your family is normal and realizes that it’s completely fine to be single. You may occasionally even wonder what’s wrong with you and why you have been single for so long, but then you remember that it’s fine and you’ll eventually find Mr. Right-- hopefully.
I’m here to stress that it is totally and completely fine to be single. Sometimes you may get lonely, but that’s normal. You have standards and are picky, and in my opinion, that is the best way to be. You are someone that doesn’t always need someone. You are independent and that is an important trait to have. And to be honest, dating is dumb when you’re young. Yes, it teaches you lessons and helps you find out what you like and do not like in a significant other, but you’re also more than likely going to end up heartbroken. There is no rush to find the man you’re going to end up with. It’s fine to enjoy yourself while you are young and dumb.
I love being single for so many reasons. I do get lonely sometimes just like the rest of the single ladies out there, but being single is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me. I have had two short-term relationships and both were unhealthy. This has caused me to have trust issues. I don’t want to be in a relationship when I don’t trust someone. I don’t have to worry about constantly letting someone know what I am doing and I can go out and enjoy myself with my girlfriends. I can sleep easily at night knowing that there is no possibility of someone cheating on me. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want without wondering how my actions will affect someone else. I don’t have to worry about stupid fights over dumb things. I don’t have to make time for someone else while I’m busy worrying about myself. I honestly don’t think I would even have time for a boyfriend at this point in my life.
I am so focused on myself and doing what makes me happy. I am worried about doing well in school and preparing for my future because that is the most important to me right now-- not being in a relationship with a guy. I am not against relationships by any means and if you have a significant other, that’s great. It’s just not for me at this point in time. One day, it’ll happen just to happen. But for right now, please stop asking me why I don’t have a boyfriend. I simply do not want one. And that is okay.
