If you are a 20-something with 10 different dating apps on your phone and a string of broken relationships packed in a bag on your way to the next one, listen up: I'm single and I'm not looking for anyone and I would not want it any other way.
I got asked by a girl my age why I had no boyfriend and why I had no interest of getting one. Her question bothered me because I was thinking to myself, "Im 20 years old." "I have my whole life ahead of me." Why is it so frowned upon being young and not in love like everyone else? Why is it so shocking for a 20 year old to be so independent and want to make herself happy instead of relying on a man? I have no answer. In the real world, things that are meant to be single often don’t feel like enough. They are viewed as lacking in some way. It’s the same way society sees single people; society just doesn’t get single people
Being single in your adult life is a gift to yourself.. it gives you the opportunity to really get to know yourself. Upon failing to embrace this opportunity, you risk losing love once you do find it because you didn't do the prerequisite soul searching. Now I believe it is okay to go on a date every now and then... (If that's even still a thing) but to invest your time in some boy is such a waste of time at this age. You are only young once!! Go buy a dog, go travel, spend time with your friends, be wild, figure out who you are as a person, find your aspirations in life, just go be the best you can be and do it well. Do not let some guy tear you down and have you tied down. I see so many girls my age and younger get caught up in a guy and they don't ever get to experience life. I promise you, you are going to look back at your life 20 years from now and you are going to be devastated you let that boy keep you from doing what you wanted to do.
Being independent is something I strive to be. Now i am not saying I wouldn't want a guy to spoil me at some point in my life. but as of right now, I want to spoil myself. I want to make myself happy. I want to do great things on my own. I cannot stress this enough to you young ladies.. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND IN ORDER TO BE HAPPY. YOU NEED YOURSELF. I can honestly say I am so content with the way my life is going. My relationship with God has never been better and I have two jobs that i absolutely love and invest so much of my time in that I do not even have time for some guy.
So all I am saying is, you have got to love yourself before you can love anyone else and that it's OKAY to want to do your own thing and not invest your time in a guy like the rest of them. It's OKAY to want to work hard to be successful. It's OKAY to turn down guys who do not interest you. and It's OKAY to be independent. God has some crazy awesome plans for all of us independent ladies. You will see.
