It's OK To Walk Away And Focus On Yourself

It's OK To Walk Away And Focus On Yourself

There is nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself and your goals.

College is an interesting place. It's both heaven and hell on Earth. There will be way too many things happening all at the same time. You might find yourself picking between studying for your huge biology exam and helping one of your girlfriends through more boy drama. Perhaps you're struggling to keep up with your math class because you're more stressed about your friends. Consider yourself lucky if you even get a decent amount of sleep at night (and by decent, I mean four to five hours).

Balancing academics and a social life can be pretty hard. That's where a lot of stress roots from. One night you're pulling an all-nighter to study for a test you have in the morning and the next night you're blacked out and "getting lit" with your friends. This is the way of life for many college students; it works perfectly for them. But, unfortunately, it's not always for everyone.

If you're in the latter group, know that there's nothing wrong with that. It could be because you noticed the partying was affecting your academics in a negative way. It could be because you found yourself surrounded by the wrong people. It could be because you need to take a break and cleanse. Whatever the reason may be, it is acceptable to take a step back.

In the midst of everything that is going on, the possibility of losing yourself is high. It happens. You won't realize it in a snap, but, when you do, don't be afraid to drop everything and do what it is necessary to pick yourself up again. Take some time away from everyone and everything that dragged you down. Use the time to reevaluate yourself, accept your flaws, come to terms with your mistakes, and cleanse altogether.

There is nothing better than focusing on yourself and getting back on track. You will have contentment. You will learn to value yourself more. You will be in a better place than before. That is very, very important because you won't have any motivation at all if you don't have a positive mindset, to begin with.

We've been told countless times that our time in college is some of the best years of our lives, but don't let that make you feel like you're going to miss out. I guarantee you that you won't. You will be fine if you skip those crazy nights. You've still got your whole life ahead of you to have all the fun you want. You won't be stuck at a nine-to-five job you can't stand as long as you prioritize yourself and your goals starting now. Work really hard, so you can play even harder later on. You will thank yourself for it.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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Don't Be Afraid of Changing Your College Plan

It really isn't THAT bad...


I can't claim to have any deep wisdom on life, but I at least have some good experience with a highly turbulent college career. I started as a game design major in a tech college in Rochester, NY, transferred to a college in Texas, and now I'm an English major at CofC.

My college life has been something of a roller coaster.

But I regret none of it. Maybe it would have been easier to stick to the track I was on initially, but I would never have been fully satisfied with it. Now I've finally found my place and, even though it may have taken a lot of shifting around, it was undoubtedly worthwhile.

I don't mean to say that everyone who is slightly dissatisfied with their major should transfer all over the country and change their major(I had to sacrifice the ability to get a minor because of the path I took, so I wouldn't recommend it to most people). I just believe that if you find yourself not liking the classes that are vital to your major or if you can't find a place at your current college, then changing your major or transferring isn't as horrible as you might imagine.

When I started college I was completely confident in what I wanted to do and what my future would look like. I thought it would be ridiculous for someone to stray from their initial path. That idea led to me deciding to transfer later than was smart.

I think everyone should know that having to change your plans for the future, sometimes in dramatic ways, isn't a bad thing. No matter how scary transferring and changing majors can seem, many people have done it before you and many will after, you aren't alone.

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