In my lifetime, I would say that I have had one truly genuine relationship with a guy. It lasted a total of barely four months. I was with a guy who seemed super sweet, loving and seemed to have the right head on his shoulders. He came from a nice family, that I absolutely adored, and for those four months, everything seemed great. We saw each other almost every day. After school, before practice, on weekends for the whole day. We were inseparable, or so it seemed like. I had people telling me how perfect we were together, and I believed them. Everything seemed perfect, until the last three weeks of our relationship. We were fighting all the time. Mostly because I was being adopted, therefore I was moving a grand total of 30 minutes away. He made it seem as though I was moving across the country and he couldn't wrap his brain around the fact that it would be okay to not be with each other 24/7, in fact, it was healthy.
Things ended when I was in Michigan visiting family, and he openly admitted to cheating on me while I was gone, saying that he had to choose between me and the other girl. I obviously made the choice easy for him, and left him with just her as a choice.
I have not been in a relationship since things ended between this guy, which happened July of 2015. For a lot of high school aged kids, not being in a relationship seems uncommon, but to me I just haven't found the right guy.
I have friends that think they have to be in a relationship, maybe because they just want the attention, or maybe they feel as though they will fit in, in this dating crazed era. Either way, I have seen friends drop their standards lower and lower, to be in a relationship, ending up with someone who has no respect for their significant other, causing my friend to end up getting hurt or for them to remain in an obviously unhealthy relationship.
This leads me to my point, it's OK to not be in a relationship in high school, college or whenever. There is no reason to lower standards, to try to 'fit in' with this age, where dating is what is all over social media. I am not trying to bring down anyone who is in a healthy relationship, like a friend of mine who has been dating her boyfriend for two years now, they're awesome together and he treats her right, and vice versa. The point I am making is that you do not have to be in a relationship to feel okay about fitting in nowadays. I have only been in one seemingly serious relationship in my life, and to a lot of people, that is a smaller number than the average, but I'm okay with that.
I don't find any joy in getting my heart broken, and dating just to date is an easy way for that to happen. If I find a guy who meets my standards, and my parents and brothers approve then I'll give it a chance, but until that happens, I'm OK with being single, doing my own thing, living my life, and you should too.
