Now I know what you're thinking, of course it's the not-so-attractive guy writing the article about how looks should not be everything. But I'm gonna do it anyway because frankly I don't care what anyone thinks. I believe this is an important thing to talk about.
To start off, I'm not saying that looks aren't somewhat important, but that they should not be the most important thing to look for in a person.
It's always disheartening to see someone get so down about the way that they look. Even some of the most beautiful people in the world can get insecure about the way that they look. They fear the way that others will see them even if they never actually talk to the person looking at them. It really hurts to know that some people feel that way.
However, it is very easy to see why so many people are consumed with the way that they look. We live in a society that constantly shoves the image of what people should look like in our faces. Since it is constantly shoved in our faces we think that we need to look that way. Then we expect other people to look that way as well. We go through this cycle over and over again until everyone hates themselves.
But it does not have to be that way.
Sure, it's very easy to see physical features that are beautiful, but a beautiful personality is far more important.We live in such a hook-up culture that we have decreased our interest in people's personalities simply to avoid "catching feelings" for a person. We treat emotions and feelings like garbage, and because of it, everyone has to pay the price.
We have more depressed people than almost any generation before us. Also, the most depressed age group is from late teens to mid-20s, so pretty much every college student. It happens more with this age group because our age group has the highest expectations when it comes to looks. Therefore, people start to feel as if they are not good enough. Guys and girls starve themselves and work themselves to death to achieve the "body goals" that our generation has adopted.
To all of the people who are afraid that they are not good looking or will never be liked by anyone I have a message for you: Looks go away with age, but your personality will shine as long as you allow it. I mean for God's sake, if an ugly dude like Jay-Z could get Beyonce, personality has to mean something.
Try and put your insecurities behind you. Laugh at the faults you find in yourself. Realize that how you look is not always what is important. If people are so shallow to only base their feelings off of looks, they do not belong in your life.
Yours truly,
Ryan Jordan
