So your crush just (un)intentionally hurt you by glorifying the kind of women he likes and would rather date. You realize you can’t relate and don't seem to fall in his arena of favored preferences. He said he much rather light skin girls, right in front of you--knowing you are darker then what he prefers. He says he likes girls that wear this or that. Walks like this, like that. Doesn’t go there but she does this, and you do the opposite of that.
You're faced with a decision. Will you maneuver the situation and attempt to shift his interest towards your direction, choosing a darker skin over that lighter skin he desires. Or you could completely cut the whole man out of your life and know there is someone willing and waiting for your kind of woman, instead of putting in more work to change someone else’s mind.
We shouldn’t tolerate colorism in love anymore. We should refrain from taking part in straining relations among black women due to a socially constructed unconscious insecurity each party beholds.
He says he likes black women, but "not really that kind of black women." He prefers his coffee with extra, extra cream, as long as it comes with the "black assets." His preference became prejudice to me. You think you're just as close to perfect like the light skin girl, having incredible qualities, and he still neglects to see some potential in you. Because he would much rather surrender his single life to a light skin girl who might not understand like I could. You think you're close to perfect and found someone who isn’t close to perfect, but you’re just as willing to work with it and he rejects you.
Preferences are innocently molded and conditioned by our environment. Due to the existence of racism, colorism must exist. We see it in the workplace, the home, social media, relationships and the trending topic, strip clubs.
My decision was to cut him out of my entire reason for loving again. If a man has a preference, we can't judge them for it. But when a man would rather fail in life attempting to seek out his need to fulfill his desires with whom he prefers, why try to change his fixed mind?
My grandmother often spoke of men who invest in women because of an image. But the same thought works vice versa. In my case, my man crush Monday liked light skin girls because of the pretty little light skin babies they’d make.
He likes little girls with petite bodies and weak skin so he can easily manipulate her into loving his emptiness and damaging herself for the cause of changing himself. Let's face it, ladies; we will always see progress, but never permanent change.
The black community is racist to their own kind. Lighter skinned women are in popular demand because the community is rejecting the dark skinned woman’s beauty.
It proves to us no matter how great or talented you are, he’d much rather a light skin girl.
