It's okay not to be okay.
Remember that.
Sometimes we all have things in our lives that are happening or have happened that are hurting us.
Maybe we have trust issues because of it, anxiety, bad memories etc.
The hard part is sometimes we have it in our minds that we cannot be upset or broken. That we have to focus on fixing ourselves right away because other people do not like sad people. That is the problem, though.
Sometimes we need to be sad or mad or however we feel. We cannot constantly try to rub dirt in our wounds and not take the time to feel the pain to actually heal.
Like one of my favorite Harry Potter characters famously said, "Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it," - Albus Dumbledore to Harry Potter, Goblet of Fire.
At times we are dealing with a hardship we have people who use phrases such as, "you're being too sensitive" or "too dramatic" or "you cannot hold a grudge you need to get over it already." These can be cop-outs, though. Who is anyone to tell you not to feel how you feel?
Feel what you feel and understand it. When we can understand our feelings that becomes power. Nothing is worse then getting upset all over again about something because you never took the time to feel what you felt when it actually happened.
Remember earlier how I said it is okay to be okay. It really is.
You have to hurt to heal sometimes and fall to fly.
"Let the pain remind you hearts can heal," -Paramore
If you're grieving the loss of a loved one do not let anyone make you think that you need to follow all the steps of the grieving process and should feel better after 6 months. You are human not a robot set to follow a certain formula or emotions of timeliness.
Or the friend who betrayed you is not any less a horrible feeling than the girl who is dealing with her boyfriend cheating on her.
Whatever your situation is let yourself be broken if you need to. Now do not forget to put yourself back together, but do it when you're ready.
These things have hurt you because they mattered and sometimes people will understand and sometimes they will not. And that is okay. It is only important that you understand them.
