According to Urban Dictionary, a fling is a slang term for a "deliberately short term sexual relationship with someone". It has always been seen as a negative, teenage-like act or socialization; to be reckless and "dumb" enough to have a sexual relationship with a stranger or friend has always been looked down upon in this society. But, in reality, is a fling really as infamous as it seems?
I had a conversation with a close college friend about this topic recently. How this topic came up? Who knows. Just know that we both came to the conclusion that flings aren't bad at all. Most people tend to get on the bandwagon and jump to a conclusion when a term has a negative connotation. Yet, they never attempt to think it through and formulate their own ideas and opinion on that certain topic or concept. The idea of a fling can seem like a bad one, but bear with me and listen through on why it can actually be a fun, consented and all-around great experience!
The biggest issues with flings is that they are short-term sexual experiences, one party can become attached, and that there are other people involved. This has grown to be a very negative stereotype created towards flings, but it really does not have to be seen in that way. As a whole, if an individual is looking for an actual relationship with someone flings aren't at all ideal, but here are some ways that flings can succeed:
•Communicate with each other.
•Clarify what both parties want and are okay with.
•CONSENT. CONSENT. CONSENT.
•Be safe and use protection, ALWAYS. NO EXCUSES.
•If anybody starts developing feelings or becoming attached, communicate with your partner!
•Do not lie or hide anything!
•If one party is not looking for a short-term relationship then do not start anything at all.
•Keep in mind that momentary relationships aren't bad!
For a fling to work, communication is the key and foundation to how things will turn out in the end. Both individuals have to communicate feelings, thoughts, boundaries, concerns and consents. If none of that is addressed, then problems arise and that is when things become complicated and feelings get hurt. A fling isn't as bad as it seems! Their reputation makes them appear otherwise, but they can be pretty harmless and just plain fun. Will doing all of this guarantee that no one will get attached and everything will be sun and daisies? No, but it does shine a different light on the infamous fling. Maybe, just maybe, they aren't as infamous as they seem.
