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Loyalty And 10 Other Qualities That Make Introverts The Best Friends

We all know the old saying, "opposites attract."


Introvert (/ˈintrəˌvərt/):

1. A shy, reticent person; a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things.

Introverts tend to get a bit of a bad rep.

They tend to feel drained after socializing and regain their energy by spending time alone.

They're quiet, derive energy from silence (while most extroverts are really social and derive energy from being around other people), and tend to not want to go anywhere when invited. But anyone who is friends with an introvert knows that they can be the best of friends.

And here's why.

1. Introverts thrive on one-on-one relationships

They do much better with one person rather than a group of people. They thrive on deep relationships. Once they decide that you are a genuine friend, they will put a lot of effort into being the best friend they can be.

2. Extrovert and introvert personalities compliment each other

They balance each other out. The extroverts introduce the introverts to people that they otherwise may not have met or may get them to do something they may not have done. Extroverts also help the introvert move out of their comfort zone once in a while and make them experience something they might not have otherwise.

3. They won't judge you for wanting to stay-in on a Friday night

Chances are that they would rather stay-in and watch Netflix then go out anyways.

4. They make amazing listeners

In fact, they want to listen to what you have to say and want you to listen to them as well. They most likely won't volunteer their own information but will gladly pry it out of you. And if you can get it out of them in return consider yourself lucky.

5. They are highly introspective

They want to find the deeper meaning to life and tend to analyze ( sometimes overanalyze) situations that don't really need to be. It may also take them longer to understand something, not because they don't get it but because of trying to find a deeper understanding overall.

6. They give great advice

Even when the don't really talk all that much to begin with.

7. They notice things others might miss

This makes them excellent friends because they are listeners and observers so they pick up on small details or can come up with solutions to a problem that may not have been obvious to others around them.

8. They are majorly loyal

Since they don't have a lot of friends in the first place, they are super loyal to those they do have. In fact, secrets are almost always safe in their presence because they value trust and loyalty above all else, and they won't let anything get in the way of a quality friendship.

9. When you're ready to leave, chances are that they are too

Or at the very least, they have been hoping you would be for the last hour or so.

10. They sometimes wish they were extroverts (like some of their friends)

Not all the time, but sometimes. They wonder what its like to walk into a room and immediately be able to command the attention of others like their extroverted friends.

11. Lastly, introverts NEED that friendship with an extrovert to help them break out of their shell

Take them to a dance or a bowling alley or anything else with lots of people doing lots of mingling. It will be their worst nightmare, but it's good for them from time to time, and they will often enjoy it. Just because they are introverted doesn't mean they dislike people, it just means they don't necessarily like spending time with large groups of them.

And here's a few extra tips to help you better understand an introvert.

Don't misinterpret their silence- just because they are silent doesn't mean something is wrong, they may just be deep in thought or are self-reflecting, even in front of other people.

Try not to make them the center of attention- Introverts, in general, hate being called out in public or in front of other people.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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This One’s For Africa


Read through to the end for an amazing Toto reference.


It's now been a week since I stepped foot on the African continent for the first time in my life. I first visited Johannesburg, where my dad and I spent a day on an 'apartheid tour.'

This tour consisted of visiting Shanty Town, one of the poorest communities in South Africa. The living conditions were indeed different. They had to steal electricity through homemade wires connected to the telephone poles. They had only a few porta potties for ten families to share. They had several spickets to obtain fresh water from. There was no heating in the houses, which were made from pieces of painted aluminum.

Such inconvenient circumstances have come from years of oppression towards black people in South Africa. It was incredibly sad to know that these problems still exist and that apartheid only ended so recently.

On the other hand, the people showed very little anger. Despite their living situations, the people of Shanty Town were so kind and welcoming. Everyone we passed smiled and waved, often even saying hello or asking about our wellbeing.

It brought some serious warmth to our hearts to see their sense of community. Everyone was in it together, and no man was left behind. They created jobs and opportunities for one another. They supported each other.

The next part of the day included a tour of Nelson Mandela's old house. We then made a trip to the Apartheid Museum.

Overall, Johannesburg did not disappoint. The city contains a rich history that human beings as a whole can learn a lot from. Johannesburg is a melting pot that still contains a multitude of issues concerning racism and oppression of certain cultures.

After two days in Johannesburg, my family made our way to Madikwe game reserve, where we stayed at Jaci's Lodge.

The safari experience was absolutely incredible. Quite cold (it's winter in Africa right now), but amazing enough to make up for the shivering. We saw all my favorite animals: giraffes galore, elephants, zebras, impalas, lions, hyenas, wildebeests, rhinos, you name it. While my favorite animal will always be the giraffe, I don't think any sighting could beat when two different herds of elephants passed through a watering hole to fuel up on a drink.

Finally on June 1st, I flew to George to start my program with Africa Media in Mossel Bay. On Sunday, we went on an 'elephant walk.'

The safari was certainly cool, but that makes the elephant walk ice cold. We got to walk alongside two male elephants - one was 25, the other 18. They were so cute!! We got to stroke their skin, trunk, and tusks. They had their own little personalities and were so excited to receive treats (fruits and vegetables) at the end of the journey.

My heart couldn't be more full. Africa, you have become my favorite continent. And it sure is going to take a lot to drag me away from you.

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