Loyalty And 10 Other Qualities That Make Introverts The Best Friends

Loyalty And 10 Other Qualities That Make Introverts The Best Friends

We all know the old saying, "opposites attract."


Introvert (/ˈintrəˌvərt/):

1. A shy, reticent person; a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things.

Introverts tend to get a bit of a bad rep.

They tend to feel drained after socializing and regain their energy by spending time alone.

They're quiet, derive energy from silence (while most extroverts are really social and derive energy from being around other people), and tend to not want to go anywhere when invited. But anyone who is friends with an introvert knows that they can be the best of friends.

And here's why.

1. Introverts thrive on one-on-one relationships

They do much better with one person rather than a group of people. They thrive on deep relationships. Once they decide that you are a genuine friend, they will put a lot of effort into being the best friend they can be.

2. Extrovert and introvert personalities compliment each other

They balance each other out. The extroverts introduce the introverts to people that they otherwise may not have met or may get them to do something they may not have done. Extroverts also help the introvert move out of their comfort zone once in a while and make them experience something they might not have otherwise.

3. They won't judge you for wanting to stay-in on a Friday night

Chances are that they would rather stay-in and watch Netflix then go out anyways.

4. They make amazing listeners

In fact, they want to listen to what you have to say and want you to listen to them as well. They most likely won't volunteer their own information but will gladly pry it out of you. And if you can get it out of them in return consider yourself lucky.

5. They are highly introspective

They want to find the deeper meaning to life and tend to analyze ( sometimes overanalyze) situations that don't really need to be. It may also take them longer to understand something, not because they don't get it but because of trying to find a deeper understanding overall.

6. They give great advice

Even when the don't really talk all that much to begin with.

7. They notice things others might miss

This makes them excellent friends because they are listeners and observers so they pick up on small details or can come up with solutions to a problem that may not have been obvious to others around them.

8. They are majorly loyal

Since they don't have a lot of friends in the first place, they are super loyal to those they do have. In fact, secrets are almost always safe in their presence because they value trust and loyalty above all else, and they won't let anything get in the way of a quality friendship.

9. When you're ready to leave, chances are that they are too

Or at the very least, they have been hoping you would be for the last hour or so.

10. They sometimes wish they were extroverts (like some of their friends)

Not all the time, but sometimes. They wonder what its like to walk into a room and immediately be able to command the attention of others like their extroverted friends.

11. Lastly, introverts NEED that friendship with an extrovert to help them break out of their shell

Take them to a dance or a bowling alley or anything else with lots of people doing lots of mingling. It will be their worst nightmare, but it's good for them from time to time, and they will often enjoy it. Just because they are introverted doesn't mean they dislike people, it just means they don't necessarily like spending time with large groups of them.

And here's a few extra tips to help you better understand an introvert.

Don't misinterpret their silence- just because they are silent doesn't mean something is wrong, they may just be deep in thought or are self-reflecting, even in front of other people.

Try not to make them the center of attention- Introverts, in general, hate being called out in public or in front of other people.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


Cover Image Credit: Julia Dee Qualls

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