Intimate Relationships Are So Much More Than A Sexual Connection

Intimate Relationships Are So Much More Than A Sexual Connection

The truth is, any relationship we develop with another human is considered intimate when you take a step back and change your perspective.

Intimacy is one of the most misinterpreted concepts I can think of.

For years we have been viewing intimacy in one light and have bypassed the other possible meanings due to the way society's current beliefs surrounding the word.

The majority of people naturally define intimacy as the sexual connection or bond that two humans share with one another. If you have ever watched the Bachelor or Bachelorette, you know the word intimacy is thrown around and mentioned about every five minutes. Intimate connection this, intimate connection that. Due to watching the show, it conditions people to immediately think of sex when they hear the word in the real world.

This is not the sole way I view intimacy. Though a sexual connection does come to mind, I see beyond the surface.

Intimacy also means closeness, togetherness, or familiarity. None of which have a sexual connotation.

It is so much more than a sexual connection. You can have intimate relationships with your friends, family, teachers, a mentor figure in your life, or really anybody you connect with. Hearing me state you can have an intimate relationship with a teacher sounds very wrong. Intimate and teacher are two words not often placed next to one another. Intimate and family are also not typically said in the same sentence.

The truth is, any relationship we develop with another human is considered intimate when you take a step back and change your perspective.

View it from a larger scale. Out of the billions of people on this planet, during our lifetime, we can only make so many friends. We can only have so many romantic partners. Yes, the opportunities we are given and decide to act on are bountiful and theoretically unlimited, but that being said, we do only have a certain amount of years of life on earth. This means we can only interact with a relatively small amount of human beings over the course of time.

The fact that we are so limited to the number of humans we are able to interact and get to know deems each of those individual relationships made as intimate.

Likewise, you can have an intimate relationship with an enemy. It sounds far-fetched but you can have an intimate relationship with an enemy because at one time you were intimate as close friends. Maybe you were intimate as romantic partners and something went awry which resulted in a developed hatred for the other person.

A short fling you could have had with a person can also be deemed intimate because you, out of billions of people, were lucky enough (or maybe not so lucky) to have gotten to know that person even for a short period of time.

This perception I have developed on intimacy is the reason why I hold each special person I meet so close to my heart. I feel they were brought into my life for a reason and I am lucky enough to have met them and gotten to know them.

I am incredibly grateful for everyone I have met because each and every person has left an impact on me whether it be great or small.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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