My first choice for an interview was the first person I saw when walking into the school, but I was told that New York City School Safety officers were not allowed to answer questions in an interview. I was directed to speak to the secretary who sits by the door and directs students, parents, and visitors as to where they need to go in the building. She also answers phone calls as they come through the switchboard. She asked that her name not be used for the purpose of this writing assignment. She had a lot to say regarding her responsibilities of her job, but not too much about the school itself. She did point out that she loves working at this school. She said she feels as though they have a family type atmosphere. Everyone is always smiling and willing to help another person. She said she sort of feels as though students are pretty checked out when they come to school. They say hello and smile, but many aren’t interested in doing classwork, but more interested in socializing with their friends. I have come to notice that this is partially true. It is hard to keep the kids engaged because they are always playing, roughhousing, or talking to their friends. Otherwise, they have a cell phone in their hand. The teachers, in my experience so far, are wonderful individuals. They really know their material and are passionate about teaching. Some seem to be disillusioned by the profession, which I assume is due to the students' behavior.
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To the girl struggling with her body image,
You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.
Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.
So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.
Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.
Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.
Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.
It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.
So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.
Love your body, and your body will love you right back.
A few years ago, Shonda Rimes decided to do a year of saying yes, after her sister told her she says "No" to everything. It ended up changing her life.
So, I've decided to embark on my own year of yes.
Sure, it may be easy to say yes to everything when you're a millionaire with a bunch of record-setting televisions shows, but the rest of us can do it too.
Say yes to treating yourself.
Say yes to taking care of yourself.
Say yes to saying no, don't stretch yourself too thin.
Say yes to new opportunities
The year of yes is about taking better care of yourself.
My year of yes starts right now.