I'm Telling My Inner Critic 'Thank U, Next' And You Should, Too

I'm Telling My Inner Critic 'Thank U, Next' And You Should, Too

This is goodbye.

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Ariana Grande's new song "Thank U, Next" has me feeling a little inspired. We all have those pesky inner critics that bring us down. I'm here to tell you to kick yours to the curb as well.

Dear Inner Critic,

It's time to talk. I think it is best to part our ways. I know you think you're helping me, but you are not.

You want to keep me safe by locking me into a comfort zone where I can stay untouched and cozy. Well, I am tired of being stuck there. I want to explore the world and accomplish so much. All you ever do is hold me back and make me question myself.

Overthinking is what you have taught me to do best.

I am tired of not doing things I want to do because you make me think I will fail or embarrass myself. I refuse to sit and watch from the sideline with you any longer. I am good enough, whether you think so or not.

I do not need you to compare me to anyone. Not to those Instagram models or my friends… NO ONE. I am me, so accept that! My life is great and I am sick of wishing I had other people's.

I get it, I should have studied harder for that test, but there is no reason to beat me up over it.

And oh well if I didn't make it to the gym last week! You need to realize I am just fine as myself and your annoying comments only tear me down. I mean, I don't even remember asking you your opinion, but you seem to LOVE giving it!

I know we have been together for a long time so I don't want to leave you on completely bad terms. I will tell you "thank you" because you've taught me a lot. You've helped me to keep my expectations of myself high, but I don't need you for that anymore. I know what I need to do to be successful without your stress.

You've helped me pick out every single flaw, but now I love them. You've helped me realize I need to grow and change, but not for others like you think. I can do what I want without the fear of you. So with all of that, you are cut off.

Thank u, next.

Love, Sophia

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Bailey Posted A Racist Tweet, But That Does NOT Mean She Deserves To Be Fat Shamed

As a certified racist, does she deserve to be fat shamed?
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This morning, I was scrolling though my phone, rotating between Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube and Snapchat again, ignoring everyone's snaps but going through all the Snapchat subscription stories before stumbling on a Daily Mail article that piqued my interest. The article was one about a teen, Bailey, who was bullied for her figure, as seen on the snap below and the text exchange between Bailey and her mother, in which she begged for a change of clothes because people were making fun of her and taking pictures.

Like all viral things, quickly after her text pictures and harassing snaps surfaced, people internet stalked her social media. But, after some digging, it was found that Bailey had tweeted some racist remark.

Now, some are saying that because Bailey was clearly racist, she is undeserving of empathy and deserves to be fat-shamed. But does she? All humans, no matter how we try, are prejudiced in one way or another. If you can honestly tell me that you treat everyone with an equal amount of respect after a brief first impression, regardless of the state of their physical hygiene or the words that come out of their mouth, either you're a liar, or you're actually God. Yes, she tweeted some racist stuff. But does that mean that all hate she receives in all aspects of her life are justified?

On the other hand, Bailey was racist. And what comes around goes around. There was one user on Twitter who pointed out that as a racist, Bailey was a bully herself. And, quite honestly, everyone loves the downfall of the bully. The moment the bullies' victims stop cowering from fear and discover that they, too, have claws is the moment when the onlookers turn the tables and start jeering the bully instead. This is the moment the bully completely and utterly breaks, feeling the pain of their victims for the first time, and for the victims, the bully's demise is satisfying to watch.

While we'd all like to believe that the ideal is somewhere in between, in a happy medium where her racism is penalized but she also gets sympathy for being fat shamed, the reality is that the ideal is to be entirely empathetic. Help her through her tough time, with no backlash.

Bullies bully to dominate and to feel powerful. If we tell her that she's undeserving of any good in life because she tweeted some racist stuff, she will feel stifled and insignificant and awful. Maybe she'll also want to make someone else to feel as awful as she did for some random physical characteristic she has. Maybe, we might dehumanize her to the point where we feel that she's undeserving of anything, and she might forget the preciousness of life. Either one of the outcomes is unpleasant and disturbing and will not promote healthy tendencies within a person.

Instead, we should make her feel supported. We all have bad traits about ourselves, but they shouldn't define us. Maybe, through this experience, she'll realize how it feels to be prejudiced against based off physical characteristics. After all, it is our lowest points, our most desperate points in life, that provide us with another perspective to use while evaluating the world and everyone in it.

Cover Image Credit: Twitter / Bailey

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How Anime Got Me To Start Working Out

Anime inspired me and continues to get me to work out.

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At the end of the last semester of my freshmen year of college, I had gained the dreaded freshmen fifteen and then some. I was overeating, rarely ever working out, and starting to become a little over weight.

I had never really committed long term to any workout plan or routine before, outside of working out two to three random days a week for three weeks with my brother. I would always make a little progress, but as soon as those three weeks passed, I would always give up and go back to my couch potato ways. I would have happily continued on with my couch potato ways, but then I was inspired from an unlikely source: Anime.

A common trope in anime is the Training arc. I have never been more motivated to go workout then after watching some spunky shonen protagonist push past their limits through rigorous work out montages. These are the moments that made me want to work out.

More specifically, "My Hero Academia's" training arc. In the first three episodes, the main character, Izuku Midoriya, undergoes intense training in order inherit the powers of All might. While I personally can't relate to Midoriya's reasons for working out, I was inspired by his determination to better himself physically. It was because of these three episodes that I decided to start working out again.

While I was able to start going to the gym nearly every day, there were days where I really did not want to go to the gym. Thankfully, I have been graced with another anime that pushes me out the door so that I can continue to get healthier and stronger.

"Run with the Wind."

What is even better than a three-episode training arc? An entire show that's an extended training arc! "Run with the Wind" is about a group of 10 college students, most of which have been tricked into joining the track team. All, except two of them, have no experience being on a track team and for some of them, it is their first time working out on a regular basis.

All of them are starting from different points and it reminds me of where I used to be, where I am now, and where I want to go in terms of my health. So, anytime I don't feel like working out, I remind myself that if they can do it, I can too!

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