Since way back when there has been this notion that women depend on men. This is still true today.
When a woman is independent and has the ability and knowledge to take care of herself, she is often times seen as undateable.
I once had a guy tell me I'm intimidating and that scares him. At first, I was super confused. I feel like I'm the least intimidating person to walk the planet. I cry when I upset people and can't say no to save me life. Then he explained it wasn't that — it was the fact that I was independent and knew I didn't need a man to be OK. I can take care of myself, provide for myself, and have goals and dreams I will accomplish.
My mom didn't warn me when I became the strong woman she wanted me to become that I would then be destined to be alone forever.
What a double edged sword.
Well, I promise you, we may be independent, but we are dateable. With that being said, we are only datable for the right man. Not every man can handle an independent woman.
*shrugs*
But for those men whom it scares, listen to this.
What's so bad about being in a relationship with a woman who can provide for herself? You both can be out in the world doing great things and making each of your dreams come true being this ultimate duo of badassery. The best part? You can be by each other's sides while you each do this.
You say, well the point of being in a relationship is to have someone to take care of you, but she doesn't need taking care of. She might not need you to walk her to her car in the dark, but she wouldn't tell you not to. I don't NEED to be taken care of, but I WANT to be.
Alongside this, everyone at some point in their life, even multiple times, no matter how independent will need taking care of. We will get the flu so badly we can't get out of bed to feed our cat. We will be on the side of the road with a broken transmission and need someone to call. We will probably not want to ask for help, but we will. And that's your time to shine when you are absolutely needed.
She is confident enough to not worry when you go out to the bar with your guy friends.
She is OK having a night alone, to herself.
I could go on and on about the benefits of dating an independent woman. But the truth is, you all may just have to find out for yourselves.
Independent women are most definitely still dateable.
