Why is it that people say when you get in a relationship you loose your independence?
You can have both.
More and more recently I have been noticing how much people hate on relationships and happy couples, especially in music and on televison. I'm going to sound like a huge hypocrite for a second, because whenever I went through a highschool breakup I was blaring Taylor Swift girl power music and telling my friends about how "I didn't need no man." But after meeting my now fiance I look back and see that even though I wanted to be independent, I didn't have to give up living my life how I wanted in order to have a relationship.
The key to being independent and in a relationship is just about finding the right person.
I had met my other half; he made me whole and complete, but I know- and he knows- that I work hard for the things I want in life and nothing or noone is going to stop me from doing that. Which is exactly how it should be. I chase after the things I want knowing I have someone to cheer me on, push me, and comfort me during tough times. And he knows I'll do the same for him.
You can have another half, somone who makes you feel whole and complete, the fullest version of yourself. You can depend on them and feel like you're more yourself with them than you are with any one else, AND still be completly whole on your own.
Feeling such intense feelings for a person doesn't mean you can't have your independence. Sometimes people equate realationships to the death of ones self; the death of your own world you've built and ruled for so long. But in a real realationship, a true one, it will be the opppsite. It's not a choice. You don't just say goodbye to yourself and hello to just being a half of a whole. You are still you.
You'll be faced with a lot of choices throughout your relationship. The one choice you should never have to make is between the love of your life and yourself. When you find the right love your relationship will strengthen your independence and vice versa.
So, keep an eye out for Mr./Mrs. Right and keep being the mad independent boss that you are.
