Last week, I wrote an article entitled "A Letter to the Boy Who Changed Me"; this week, I would like to respond to said article.

Previously I wrote about a boy who had supposedly "changed me", when in reality I was the one who changed myself. I thought this boy was the one who had made me re-think my actions and make better decisions, but it was me. I would often think to myself, "smh I do not need this boy in my life to make better life choices and to have fun." So, to save you some foreshadowing, I have since broken up with said boy and am living my best life.

I feel as if in society today, young adults and college students measure success through your relationship status. It's discerning that a young person can't be deemed "successful" if they aren't in a relationship. Almost anytime I scroll through Instagram or Facebook, I see a picture or video with a title along the lines of "relationship goals". But, why does a relationship have to be one's "goal".

So many young people now days feel as if they can only find their identity in a relationship. You were created to be more than a sub-particle of a relationship. There are so many things to do while one is young that you can't do when you're married and have a family. I'm not trying to portray the illusion that one can't be happy in a relationship at a young age, because I know people who are. But to those of you who feel as if you can only find yourself in a partisanship, I'm here to tell you that's false. You were created to do great things and be great on your own.

Find yourself in YOU. Find your passion that makes YOU happy. Create your own happiness, and live a life of adventure- because it's not like you'll make it out alive anyway.